You must log in or register to comment.
On Lemmy, men only use doors. Anything but windows, right gang?
This comment was brought to you by IBM
Man here. I haven’t opened a door since 2005. When my wife isn’t with me I just stand outside trying to hide my tears until a woman comes along to let me in.
Men are just dogs 🤭
https://youtu.be/5LNlBIg4g3I (this track is a fun earworm)
Surely if you are near a door and someone wants to come through you open and hold it for them regardless of sex?
I ONLY hold it if there’s sex.
Gender is irrelevant.
If it’s a man coming, I purposefully and with force, slam it shut and block it with my body.
If you just stand there, waiting for another man to
cumcome , that makes you gay.Stick it in the letter slot and I’ll help you out.
Thats what I do. Hilarious if just so many people pour into the building and im stuck there for 5 minutes until some other poor schmuck takes my place.
I just hold it long enough for them to not have to open it again, but I let it go once they are in range to hold it themselves.
Been my experience with random people for like a decade or more. The only people I’ve run into who seemed to care was this elderly couple in Alabama (I was visiting, live in GA) where the wife always waited for her husband to open doors, and my sister-in-law who has my brother open doors for her.
She also chastised me for not walking over to my mom’s door and opening it for her when we were all eating out once, to my mother’s confusion because she’s used to opening her own doors.
I used to work in a brew pub. I had a woman once criticize me for not going out of my way to get the door for her. I was behind the bar, so that would have required me walking like 20’ away and then 30’ back to front to get to her.
She let herself in then called me out for not opening the door for her. I responded with “I needed to make sure you werent a vampire, since they can’t enter uninvited!”
She grimaced and one of the regulars chimed in “youre wrong, shes definitely a harpy, not a vampire!”
And she stormed out.
I really don’t understand people who want that. It’s so infantilizing to have someone else do basic shit for you, especially if you need to wait for it. It crosses a line from basic politeness to learned helplessness and is often a motivation for weaponized incompetence, so I also don’t understand the people who do those things for a partner that demands it. It would be an instant loss of interest for me.
It’s often an enforcement of gender roles, but you also see issues the reverse way for helplessness and incompetence: old men who do not know how to cook or handle any household chores because their wives always did it for them.
One time, I arrived at a small store as an employee was finishing their smoke break, exchanged friendly words as we both went towards the door. In that moment, I realized that if I open the door, it’ll be right in his way and I paused, unsure about how to handle it. He ended up opening it for me, but the whole thing felt awkward as fuck, like my pause was because I was waiting for him to open it for me. Easily the worst door opening experience I’ve ever had. I’m a dude btw.
This feels so familiar, I think I’ve done exactly that in the past.
Man woman child Martian I will open the door for you if I’m in a position to do so but I ain’t waiting with the door open for 30 seconds while you take your time
I do. If I get to make it first I hold it open for them, male or female sometimes both
r/KenM was such a solid subreddit back in the day. Top tier comedy. Now it’s just fake profiles and bots that use the name for clicks.
I don’t know that the real Ken M is active anymore. But yeah, the imitators have never gotten his tone right.
“Mountains get so big because they have no natural predators.”
I’ll never hold the door unless it’s a public building, they’re close enough that I wouldn’t need to hold it for long, and they aren’t a woman within 10 years of my age. My anxiety can’t risk me being seen as a creep so I don’t want someone to think I’m holding the door for them cause I’m attracted to them or anything like that.
Just keep a permanent look of disdain on your face, like if the person is really inconveniencing you.
This trick is closing a door silently. I learned to do that when my kids were small.
RaptorOpeningDoor.gif
Also yes, men do. Like me personally, I will hold open doors for other men even. And I’ve had doors opened for me too. These tradwife women high-key rude as fuck for never opening doors for people.
I do, but I always hate when there are two doors and then they feel obligated to do the double thank you. It’s like bless yous with sneezes, three sneeze should only get you one bless you, two doors, one thank you.
I know I do; because I refuse to use windows.
Badum tss. (Yes, I use arch btw.)
(☞ﾟヮﾟ)☞
You’re missing out on some quality electronics
Appreciate the sentiment, but my preference for linux is born from the desire to move away from proprietary American software more than anything else; It’s a subject I feel strongly about (To the point where I’m using a Linux phone over android/iOS, self hosted matrix server instead of WhatsApp etc).
Um that’s cool but I was making a joke about robbing rich people
Haha Oops.
My phone is my last big American tech item I haven’t ditched. I’d be interested to know what phone you went with and what distro and de you run?
Using a volla Quintus with Ubuntu touch. It does all I need a phone to do, but I wouldn’t say it’s at the stage ready for mass adoption yet. Usually I’ll need to create web apps for certain services (there are no native fediverse clients for example, so I’m using a web app of blorp), so it’s manageable if you’re a power user (and being able to ssh to your phones terminal is pretty cool if you’re into Linux in general).
Waydroid comes as standard, and UT uses containers to run most desktop apps; known as libertine containers. For UT native apps (which there isn’t a great deal of, hence the reliance on web apps/containers) you can browse here (Webber is your best friend on UT; as it simplifies creation of web apps).
You don’t have the same freedom with environments on UT as you do desktop OS’… I couldn’t even tell you what the env is called off the top of my head, but if you’re asking about my pc; I’m currently running Garuda with KDE (though considering a switch to something like bazzite, as I’m not home enough to keep up to date with the rolling distros, and just want something that runs games when I am back). My laptop is currently running mint with KDE, which I switch to cinnamon when trying to convert someone from windows.
Which Linux phone?
Volla Quintus running Ubuntu touch; it’s european made too.
Nice, thank you for the answer.
Same question here!
I was born on the east coast of Canada. Everyone gets the door held for them, sometimes even when they’re on the other side of the parking lot.
Judging whether a person is sufficiently distant for it to be acceptable not to hold the door is a classic Eastern Canadian trial.
Is it an autism thing that I kind of get annoyed when people hold doors for me? Like fuck, I was planning to open the door myself, now you just changed my plan.
Depends on the timing imo. Usually it’s just a “ok I wasn’t expecting that but sure” situation.
Like every time or if you were like 40 feet away and now you feel like you have to walk faster to stop inconveniencing the person holding the door? Or like you have someone 40 feet behind you and now you worry if you should hold the door for them too, since the door was held for you?
You can do the “push open the door more as you let it go” and let them decide if they would rather hurry to get it or just open it themselves.
Sometimes I pull out a cigarette, stop and pretend to light it, just to let them off the hook / make them stop waiting for me…
Anything more than a one second pause in the doorway, like unless the door would be closed in my face as soon as I got to it. I still wouldn’t mind it closing in my face but I would at least be anticipating it.
I’ve disliked it ever since an older man held the door open for me, but stood awkwardly in the doorway. He copped a feel as I tried to get past. Creepy.
