You, my friend, need an adventure. Any adventure, even if it sounds small and dumb.

I creeped your post history (sorry) - did you end up taking that bus trip you talked about a few months back? If so, what was that like? If not, any reason why you feel you shouldn’t do it now (or soon)?

I’ve felt like you before, at least the way you’re describing it. My solution was mundane adventure - walk a stupid amount to a place you could easily get to by car. Strike up conversations with strangers by leaving your phone alone re: directions/things of interest/etc. unless absolutely necessary. Set yourself some boon to obtain - a beer at Pub X, a meal at place Y, whatever - and make the journey a little less convenient/a little more scenic than you might do by default.

The above isn’t for everyone, obvs, but take the idea of an adventure or ‘quest’ and see if anything strikes you. It can be as grand or mundane as you want it to be.

Just one option among others.

The hobbies are being suggested because you clearly need a new element to spice up your life. Tbh i always felt the same way as you did, barely satisfied by what life has to offer. My answer to this is distraction, i cannot really sell you on why its the answer its just that deep down I know that novelty is the only aspect of life that has the potential to enrich it. Pick a new source of distraction that offers bottomless rabbitholes.

Change one thing just because you can. Take a different way to or from work, whether it is walking (and leaving much earlier), or a different bus/train or car route.

Listen to your favourite songs… look at the birds around you. Borrow a book from the library and read it, one bit at a time. Make the choices in your life, deliberate and DIFFERENT. Break your routine. Feel human.

Then you can choose to join a casual sports team, a minecraft server, something else for human contact.

Therapy.

Could it be depression?

Anyways, would you be able to recall at the end of the day something nice that happened to you, even if small? Gratefulness is my personal path to inner peace doesn’t matter if big or small. And even if you decide to not take this path, you can use the memory of that good moment to 1 make it happen more often, or 2 invest your time/thoughts to make it even better next time it happens or 3 follow up and build on top of it.

Try this book.

“Discover What You Are Best At” by Linda Gail. I always had jobs, and never particularly liked working. I did the tests in the book and got pointed at a job I actually enjoyed doing.

Even on rainy Mondays I didn’t hate having to leave the house.

Having a job you like solves a lot of your problems.

Figure out what feels the most rewarding, and spend more time doing that. Learning a musical instrument, making art, or whatever else. Also, maybe get a pet.

Get a dog and pamper it.

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/how-to-survive-midlife-blues

Depending on how old you are, you might just be hitting the normal midlife low point. It hit me hard in my late 30s and I spent a lot of time reading about it once I found out it was typical. I think a lot of it has to do with the rate at which you’re experiencing milestones and life changes. It feels like you are constantly progressing in your life up to your 20s or 30s and then the time scale suddenly shifts. Things take much longer to advance - saving enough for a house or retirement, that next promotion (assuming you even want one), major family changes, etc.

Understanding that helped me recover somewhat, though it still took a couple of years. I’m still in that lull, trying to figure out what I really even want to do next, but I don’t feel sad about it anymore. I don’t know if this applies to your situation, but I found it really helpful to learn about it.

How’s your anxiety level? Depression and anxiety are linked pretty closely and with you mentioning the expense of things that sticks out to me you might have other issues.

It sounds like a mental health evaluation would benefit you, honestly. I would not want to be alive today if not for medication.

I still don’t feel like doing anything or being with anyone but I don’t feel worthless.

I hope you can find something that helps

Well the only thing you said you liked doing is cooking so perhaps you should experiment with that more. Also it sounds like you do a lot, hardly what I’d describe as an empty life. Maybe try doing less. Boredom drives people to creativity, that might help you find something else you like doing.

I’m like an atheist monk.

you might be having SzPD. I’m not saying that but you might think about it.

I don’t want to travel because it costs money.

I don’t spend much money on clothing or media and save most of my paycheck.

then why don’t you use some of those to travel? There are ways to travel less expensively. I had a phase like this when I was a college kid and I saved up the small scholarship (much less than an actual job) and travelled, which did something that depression meds couldn’t do then. ymmv though.

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So you‘re boring, arrogant and not interested in anything. Gotcha. Still enough to do for somebody like you, no worries:

Okay, you do like cooking. If that’s something you enjoy you might want to improve it. Watch some cooking videos on YouTube. Read some books about it. Experiment a bit. Bring some of it to work for your colleagues that aren’t total morons. No sweat, no pressure, just have a bit of fun.

Okay, so you do sport in your freetime. Good. Maybe set goal for something. If you are into running you could train for a marathon or just for a random sportsevent in your area.

What music do you listening to? Are there concerts of bands you like nearby? Or a bit farther away, giving opportunity for a nice weekend trip? You don’t have to stand right in the middle, you know. Just jam to the music where’s a bit more space around you.

Get a pen and a notebook and write what comes to your mind. Honestly, I can’t stress enough how important that is. Go. Write. Old style analogue. Bring order to your thoughts. Or the opposite, just vomit them on page. As long as you write.

Buy a motorcycle and drive around. With aim or without.

Learn to mix cocktails and or get into whiskeys.

Learn to build a pc and buy the new monster hunter or just some other game you like.

Learn bushcrafting and to wildcamp and sleep in a hammock beneath a tarp in the mountains / down by the river / at the local park.

I wouldn’t recommend it it to somebody else, but: Pay prostitutes for sex. You have money and that’s the most effortless way for sex that requires the least human interaction. No clubbing, no flirting, no dating. Perfect for you.

Visit lost places. Climb on cell towers or building cranes at night and enjoy the view. Go for a night swim. Go rooftopping.

Set a goal to do something crazy every day. Or something kind. Or both.

I would recommend travelling, but I think you’d be still bored and uninterested just at a different place. However I think it can be Eye opening to see how people live somewhere else.

That’s pretty much it. Good luck.

Edit: alternatively post comments with your pr0n alt-account. Live dangerously.

Spend your money, travel, get outside your comfort zone and challenge yourself. Or get professional help.