

There’s an open source movement basically solving this sort of problem. I’ve had various smart home things working flawlessly for a decade or more.
The key is twofold. To make sure that support won’t be dropped. Offline functionality is a key indicator of this. Open source firmware is even better.
The 2nd is WAF. Wife acceptance factor. How transparent is it for normal functioning, and does it fail gracefully. E.g. my light switches all work normally. If the network goes down, they fall back to dumb switches. The wife never has to deal with “the lights are broken” while I’m away with work.
It’s our normal language for referencing each other. “The wife”, “the husband”. I’m sorry if it offended you.
As for the WAF comment, it doesn’t mean she can’t fix it, just that she has no interest in the nitty gritty of how it works. This seems to be a common occurrence with smart homes. It’s FAR more likely the male partner is interested in building it. The female partner tends to only care that it works. (And that their partner is enjoying themselves).
So far this gender stereotype holds up strongly (90%+)