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That third point gives me the impression that the poster and their parents got “strict” and “slightly abusive” mixed up. Strict parenting shouldn’t involve flying off the handle at the kid. Done properly, being strict just means having rules and consequences for breaking those rules, both of which are extremely consistent, and to scale.
I mean, slightly abusive people don’t call themselves “slightly abusive,” they say they’re just being “strict,” and abuse victims have enough to process that I don’t think we should get overly hung up on their semantics,
But consistent rules and consequences that are proportionate are definitely good things and a parent whose just totally checked out can be just as bad as one that’s super controlling, so I see your point here
Colloquially, ‘strict’ is a euphemism for abusive because a narcissistic parent would never call themselves abusive.
For pedants, ‘is’ above means ‘can be’.
That’s true. I feel like if you have a bad parent that is strict, you land on abusive. While if you have a bad parent that is lenient, you land on neglectful.
Source: Pure vibes
This is very accurate. I can’t even relax if i expect i might hear footsteps, regardless of source (except cat steps). But to be fair, one parent was neglectful and the other one unpredictable.
But to be fair, one parent was neglectful and the other one unpredictable.
Oh my dude, high five. Did you also spend your 20s weirdly looking for parental figures in your older work colleagues?
Oh. Oh so that’s what that is…
No, i am to damaged for that, my avoidant personality disorder makes every social interaction inherently stressful.
In my Navy days, I could tell someone was coming from at least one room away based on the change in the sound of the ventilation outlets as they walked by.
This seems more like abusive or controlling than strict. Maybe I just think of the word differently? You can have expectations of children and set hard limits (like we don’t let our kids have social media, some would call that “strict”), but you don’t have to be hyper-controlling or abusive about it.
Cool cool. Could you tell my parents that, back about, oh, 1980? Thanks
Yeah, I had a parent like that too in the ‘80s. Even my friends were like…”damn, dude…”. Like the meme says, you find ways to work around and avoid the person, but they still find ways to make life hard. My other half grew up with that “spare the rod” shit too. We’re strict parents, but never anything like that. Ever. Fuck that noise.
Appropriately enough, I’ve been (unwittingly?) teaching similar “survival” techniques to younger students/subordinates in various professional capacities over the years, but it wasn’t until leading an actual Survival Skills program that I came to realize that others of my generation might wonder at the roots of this knowledge I’ve honed over the years.
Still, spending each week for a whole summer training new squads of 8-12yr olds from marginalized communities to track, hunt, and “capture” groups of their peers w/o being detected until the last possible moment… especially when it wasn’t “in the curriculum” and none of the other groups were remotely aware of their role in said exercises? Yeah. Priceless. 🤣🤘🏼
Not a skill path I would have ever seen coming. Have fun.
Gotta use the tools ya got, right? 🤷🏼♂️🤓
100%
Kids are always trying to get out of and around stuff. It’s human nature, especially when young and learning.
The nature of having parents with rules and kids who will, by their nature, try and get around those rules means these traits become valuable.
You’re negatively framing it IMHO
Aside from number 3. Number 3 is a massive red flag
Setting you up for a personality disorder.
A lot of times passing on one too (to be clear mental illness is no excuse for child abuse, just a dynamic I’ve observed)
I can only agree on that point. source: first hand experience.
Look, if those types of parents don’t exist, then who will be future sales executives?
These are all important skills for working in an office so score one for strict parents?
To be fair, a lot of people see those traits as life skills.
To be fair, in a broken society they are life skills
Then its broken from the get go.
Or you get the extensive planning of excuses that would be plausible for every step and location of misbehaving. I never really learned on the spot lying, but I also didn’t have abusive parents.
I’ve been seeing this meme posted since grade school. Like, there were wall posters you could buy at Hot Topic
These skills are way more useful than behaving.
