This seems more like abusive or controlling than strict. Maybe I just think of the word differently? You can have expectations of children and set hard limits (like we don’t let our kids have social media, some would call that “strict”), but you don’t have to be hyper-controlling or abusive about it.
Yeah, I had a parent like that too in the ‘80s. Even my friends were like…”damn, dude…”. Like the meme says, you find ways to work around and avoid the person, but they still find ways to make life hard. My other half grew up with that “spare the rod” shit too. We’re strict parents, but never anything like that. Ever. Fuck that noise.
Appropriately enough, I’ve been (unwittingly?) teaching similar “survival” techniques to younger students/subordinates in various professional capacities over the years, but it wasn’t until leading an actual Survival Skills program that I came to realize that others of my generation might wonder at the roots of this knowledge I’ve honed over the years.
Still, spending each week for a whole summer training new squads of 8-12yr olds from marginalized communities to track, hunt, and “capture” groups of their peers w/o being detected until the last possible moment… especially when it wasn’t “in the curriculum” and none of the other groups were remotely aware of their role in said exercises? Yeah. Priceless. 🤣🤘🏼
This seems more like abusive or controlling than strict. Maybe I just think of the word differently? You can have expectations of children and set hard limits (like we don’t let our kids have social media, some would call that “strict”), but you don’t have to be hyper-controlling or abusive about it.
Cool cool. Could you tell my parents that, back about, oh, 1980? Thanks
Yeah, I had a parent like that too in the ‘80s. Even my friends were like…”damn, dude…”. Like the meme says, you find ways to work around and avoid the person, but they still find ways to make life hard. My other half grew up with that “spare the rod” shit too. We’re strict parents, but never anything like that. Ever. Fuck that noise.
Appropriately enough, I’ve been (unwittingly?) teaching similar “survival” techniques to younger students/subordinates in various professional capacities over the years, but it wasn’t until leading an actual Survival Skills program that I came to realize that others of my generation might wonder at the roots of this knowledge I’ve honed over the years.
Still, spending each week for a whole summer training new squads of 8-12yr olds from marginalized communities to track, hunt, and “capture” groups of their peers w/o being detected until the last possible moment… especially when it wasn’t “in the curriculum” and none of the other groups were remotely aware of their role in said exercises? Yeah. Priceless. 🤣🤘🏼
Not a skill path I would have ever seen coming. Have fun.
Gotta use the tools ya got, right? 🤷🏼♂️🤓
100%
Kids are always trying to get out of and around stuff. It’s human nature, especially when young and learning.
The nature of having parents with rules and kids who will, by their nature, try and get around those rules means these traits become valuable.
You’re negatively framing it IMHO
Aside from number 3. Number 3 is a massive red flag