I appreciate all the info and the resources. My wife and I definitely have a lot of thinking to do for ourselves. We’ve made quite the life for ourselves in Oklahoma and it puts us in reasonable proximity to a lot of family and friends.

We will consider many options but my first instinct is to do what I can here. Trans people do and should exist everywhere and in spite of the adversity I know I’ll face I know I can also be an example and a role model right where I am, if I can manage to stand in the face of the tyranny I’ll be subjected to.

One thing I want to do for sure is find a community of other trans and trans-ally individuals here in OK that I can plug into and be a part of.

The problem for me is that when it comes to moving, cost of living and opportunities are a big issue. Thanks to cost of living here, I can support my disabled wife and my autistic daughter on my wages of $19/hour while working from home. It seems I would need to at least quadruple that if I wanted to move to a more progressive accepting area.

Thank you for the advice and kind words. It sure is reassuring to think I can take all of this at my own pace. I definitely intend to sit with it for a while. And I guess I’m gonna have to tackle this with my therapist — she’s probably going to make me go back to weekly sessions again 🤣

Reading your message brought an immense sense of relief to me and spoke to a deep anxiety so I greatly appreciate that. I suppose I will need to learn what this matrix thing is all about, I should’ve known I’d run into it eventually being a Lemmy user for any amount of time. I’ll be sure to read the other link you sent as well. Thank you so much for your time and thoughtful response.

My wife is so supportive I can’t even begin to go into all of it. I’ve told her about it and she says she’s here when I want to talk.

Her ex husband is ftm and he is actually our next door neighbor and handyman who has helped us out many times. She was with him when people still knew him by his deadname and now at least for out of towners he passes. So my wife has some experience in the area and I am incredibly grateful that she is supportive of me.