If you are in the US… Learn how to drive already. The vast majority of adults are going to drive every day, and most of those are going to drive at least twice a day. The degree of competency in driving seems to fall to a new low every year.
Signals - Use them. If you don’t have time to check, signal, check, maneuver, then you don’t have time to make that turn/lane change. If you don’t signal, you’re not driving, you’re just fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.
Distracted driving - it’s a myth. You’re either driving, or you are fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.
Turning from wrong lane/driving across onramp shoulder - know where where the fuck you are, and if you make a wrong turn, don’t endanger your life, your passengers lives, and every else’s on the road. A good driver rarely misses their turn, a bad driver never misses their turn. If you are cutting people off to make your ramp or turn, you’re not driving, you’re fucking around in a 2 ton death machine.
Frankly, I’m of the opinion that speeding should not be a primary offense. If the road is clear and some dude checking his lanes, using signals and paying attention to the road wants to drive 110 on the freeway, let him. They’ve never almost killed me, but idiots in cars fucking around on the road like they are the only people on the road nearly cause me an accident almost every day I drive now. I rarely get through the day without using my horn to wake up some jackass about to kill someone, and those people should get pulled over, fined, and have their behavior corrected.
Edit: Also automatic lights were a mistake and they should be banned.
I would add proper lane usage and following distance. If you’re on a multi-lane road you should be passing the people on your right. If you’re not, get over to the right lane. Leave enough space in front of you to stop in case of an emergency, this also helps with congestion as the space allows you to keep rolling at a slower speed rather than having to stop and go which propagates to everyone behind you (unless they leave enough space to not have to stop) and causes a bigger delay.
Remember heavier cars take longer to stop so you need that 18 wheeler in front if you passing things 10+ seconds before you so that you don’t collide ifvthey suddenly hit the brakes.
I should, but I had to stop somewhere, rather than just post a cranky version of the DMV driver education manual, So I arbitrarily stopped where I did. Feel free to chime in and gripe about idiots almost killing us daily though.
Sorry if my reply came off as argumentative. I thought your post was very good.
No, no, you’re fine. I just stopped where I stopped. You’re spot on that bunching up in lanes causes jams.
I try to drive with the mentality that lanes should be “permeable”, cars should have sufficient space to make easy moves between lanes. When you get a solid line of cars, people start driving the same way deer try to cross a highway.
You must know when to hold them, and when to fold them.
I am certain this pertains to every aspect of life, but am still figuring out exactly what to hold or fold, and when.
Meditation. It helps with self-control, emotional regulation, stress, and builds discipline. Screen addiction is real, and meditation helps.
Try living off grid, without power, phone, internet. Heat with a wood stove, carry your water. Then reflect on your standards for life.
I can already do that, I’m an autistic bastard that can make up languages for 14 hours a day and still have fun
Polite conversation
Knowing when silence is damaging
Knowing when to shut up
Knowing when to leave a conversation, a room, a party, a relationship, etc.
I always feel like if you’re spending time with someone new, it’s OK to have stints of silence. It’s one thing to get along with someone by having easy conversation. At the same time it’s nice to know that you don’t always have to fill up every moment with dialog. To just exist in someone else’s presence is sometimes enough.
That’s something I struggle to internalize, even when I’m with my best friends. I dunno how to be comfortable with silence, with a lull in the hangout sesh, it just eats me up and makes me feel like a bad friend.
If I notice it, I just say to myself, “silence is good, quiet is peaceful. If they’re comfortable I am comfortable.”
Good tip, thanks.
I was going to make my own comment but this hits the nail on the head. Civil discussion. They or you may be wrong but make your point and let them make theirs and may the strongest prevail.
Assert your point but don’t be mean.
Sewing
You’ll save yourself so much money and time mending clothes, blankets, and doing your own mods instead of buying new things.
I started mending my clothes a while back. I’m not great at it but for the most part it’s passable enough to wear out in public and the process of sewing it is actually really relaxing. It’s nice to be able to save something that would otherwise be tossed out. Also I was able to turn an old t-shirt into dust covers for some of my PC peripherals I don’t use all the time which I was pretty proud of.
Yeah, I have a pair of jeans where the crotch wore out recently. Took me ten minutes to add a double-seam to it. Saved me at least $50. (All by hand, no machine.)
It’s such a useful skill!
I’ve got a hoodie that looks like Frankenstein at this point but it’s my comfort clothes. I think all the stitches give it character.
I love not having to throw old things I love away. I have a Star Wars shirt I’ve worn hundreds of times over the last ten years and the pits are wearing away. I just keep stitching them up, but probably should just patch them.
My wife laughs at me for mending clothes. I often darn socks, jeans, sweaters, etc. - takes about 10 minutes but dang, I just saved $80 on a new pair of jeans. DUH.
My jr high school made the boys take ‘home economics’ and the girls had to take shop class. We all thought it was a joke but, 40 years later, I can still sew and shank a button, fix a tear in jeans, and make a pan of muffins with the best of them.
Jeans maybe but socks would bother me soo much…
I feel you but honestly, you don’t even notice.
A properly darned sock doesn’t feel any different from a new sock. And if you match the color of the yarn, it can be nearly invisible.
I think visible mending is more fun – my husband’s socks have colorful little patches that make us both smile.
Pretty great, huh?
I learned to sew in my early 50s. Very helpful. I also leaned to… solder (small electronics) which is also a great way to save a lot of money, and to generate so much less waste.
Money, sure. Time. I’m not convinced.
You can mend holes in 5-15 minutes, it takes longer to find and buy new ones
Maybe with some practice. I know some basic sewing and can do some crude stuff in 5-15 minutes. If it was something I were going to wear to, say, work I would have to spend some time learning stitch patterns, getting the right thread etc. I also am not great at organization so no matter how many times I buy sewing supplies they always get shoved away to some place I can’t remember.
My wife is working on the sewing room so maybe I will be better orginized in the future. I’m actually excited about it but it’s not like it took us 30 mins to throw everything together.
Cooking.
Following a recipe is a good start, and at least allows you to feed yourself beyond microwaved bullshit or going out to a restaurant. Knowing the science behind it, however, can open up new avenues to making dishes you love even if you can’t get all of the usual ingredients because you will know what you can use instead without compromising the taste or texture.
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It’s probably cliche but if you’re into youtube tutorials Basics with Babish is a great place to start. He teaches simple dishes that taste great and teach different skills. Another way to learn is to do one of the all in one delivery meal like hello fresh. It’s expensive but still affordable and it’s really good practice. If you dont want to spend on it you can also just get the recipes online. Also, if you find a dish a you really like you can make it whenever.
Isnt Hello Fresh just following the recipe without doing grocery shopping?
What does it do better than me finding recipes online?It gives you exact amounts of the right ingredients which alleviates a pain when grocery shopping.
Once you have enough recipes under your belt that you can figure out ways to use your leftover raw ingredients, it’s no longer worthwhile.
The recipes are really well done especially for a learner. This is one of the ways I taught my teens to cook.
Even the food pre-packaging can be a good thing beyond the convenience . While you could do the shopping yourself, sometimes people aren’t comfortable with that when you need small amounts for recipes.
Totally fair. The few recipes I saw from YT were quite neat.
There’s also the tragedy of choice. It may seem counterintuitive, but it can be easier to choose among a small set of curated recipes than the infinite variety online.
I generally go with something I find online, something I’m familiar with, or something I make up, but that can be difficult for some people until they gain experience. Even then I am tempted to bring back Hello Fresh for myself - it takes all the guesswork out, is very convenient, and is always a success
Totally. Decision paralysis is a dealbreaker.
Upsite: You don’t have to remember going for groceries as it’s all already cared for and the possibility for trying something actually new is higher.
No. You right.
Beat me to it! I was going to say at least a couple basic meals that you really enjoy. It can be fancy, or it can be some dorm quality things that fill you with nostalgia, as long as prepping it and eating it makes you happy.
We need to eat, and we need to feel satisfaction from something we have done ourselves, so do both at once.
listening to the other(s).
Reflective listening is a good way to learn that skill.
World Domination
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How to cook. Even if it is only a pair of eggs or a simple sandwich.
Emotional stability.
Everyone has wildly varying emotions
Emotional regulation is the ability to steer the ship
sheepduring a storm.This superpower still eludes me most of the time but I keep practising.
Me in my head: masterful dialog which turns heads and begins paradigms
Me in conversation: i want ed ,to , w batch of yDid
Me in same conversation: that’s what she said
awkward silence
sheep
thanks for the catch, i fixed it
Themselves.
The only answer here I agree with.
There’s no specific task, job or skill everyone needs to master. Everyone should know the basics of a lot of things, but the only thing you really need to master is yourself.
Good comment 5/5 would give free silver
I haven’t even begun to peak
Breathing air
Bruh, I have trouble with this basic survival task. I blame covid (not even sure if its covid but gotta blame something)
It’s true tho.
baiting…
At which point do you decide you’ve become a master and no longer a Padawan?
Serious question. What’s with those fucking bait shops in the seedy parts of town. What the fuck is going on in there. Do they sell like baits that will catch magical fish but you have to like make a deal with the devil?
Worms pretty much grow themselves. It’s cheap money
I dunno, I usually go to the
candy shopmarijuana gummy dispensary shop for my bait…
