That’s something I struggle to internalize, even when I’m with my best friends. I dunno how to be comfortable with silence, with a lull in the hangout sesh, it just eats me up and makes me feel like a bad friend.
Yep. Right there with you. With my upbringing if someone was silent around you, they were seething at you for something you did. And you know what it was! (You probably don’t, actually. Good luck guessing.)
This makes things unnecessarily interesting when I have long car rides with my naturally-introverted wife and I start feeling like I’ve done something terribly wrong when she doesn’t have much to say.
That’s something I struggle to internalize, even when I’m with my best friends. I dunno how to be comfortable with silence, with a lull in the hangout sesh, it just eats me up and makes me feel like a bad friend.
Yep. Right there with you. With my upbringing if someone was silent around you, they were seething at you for something you did. And you know what it was! (You probably don’t, actually. Good luck guessing.)
This makes things unnecessarily interesting when I have long car rides with my naturally-introverted wife and I start feeling like I’ve done something terribly wrong when she doesn’t have much to say.
If I notice it, I just say to myself, “silence is good, quiet is peaceful. If they’re comfortable I am comfortable.”
Good tip, thanks.