When someone uses my name unnecessarily, like when it’s already clear who they’re talking to because there’s no-one else around, I feel at best patronised, maybe creeped out like they’re trying to sell me something.
But I am not really interested.
I think this advice is more for interactions where you ARE interested in the person and want to build a genuine connection
or manipulate them
Thanks for commenting Dequei! I hear you, it can be hard trying to build up others but I have faith in you! Is there any reason in particular you’re not interested to? I’d love to learn more about your reasoning.
That comment gives me the creeps sounds exactly like an llm.
I’m not who you’re asking but for my part, I genuinely feel bored by people. I’m sure everyone has something interesting, but I can’t be bother to stick around until I hear something interesting that would not bore me to tears and that may or may not come. I wish I could, but I want to rip my nails out during small talk.
I have very few friends, but have deep connections with them. I realize that they were people I were forced to spend time with (colleagues, school neighbors, roommates), so I know that people are worth sticking around and listening to, but that’s just such a draining gamble I do not want to take.
Yeah, I feel you.
Recently, I’ve been trying to build up my friend network, because very few of the friends who I have deep connections with live near me at the moment. I know that it’s not plausible to skip straight to that easy and meaningful stage of friendship that I’m craving, but it’s so exhausting to weather what feels like an endless stream of superficial small talk, in which the vast majority of conversations won’t lead to anything more meaningful.
I don’t even mind small talk necessarily, if it has the potential to lead to more interesting conversation, but as you highlight, it ultimately comes down to a gamble.
I hate that rhetoric shit, when managers try to make you feel important by always including your name in a conversation
It just feels too forced and not sincere
It’s a fine art. Using names can help build familiarity and rapport, but yeah I can easily see it coming off as fake. I guess it really depends on what they’re saying after using your name that defines what one they’re doing.
>Uses my name.
>“this mf wants something”.Immediate salesweasel vibes.
- Be forgotten
Following this advice they’ll know literally nothing about you, you might as well just vanish when they stop looking.
What if I do all these things while holding a machete and wearing a bloody hockey mask? No way they’d forget me!
No. 1 is really important for me to learn. I often dont use peoples names when Im not overly familiar with them. I dont really know why, it feels kind of odd and I tend to rather not say anything than something Im not 100% sure is “the right choice”. I really want to use peoples names more often because I know it feels nice when someone calls you by your name, especially people who dont use it often.
I don’t like it when people address me by first name. Nickname is ok.
Morning Damage, whatcha have for dinner?
Very much same here. This year I’m trying out a new name in social scenarios to combat that.
Yes, we all know these.
What I want to know is how to make self-important people feel less important.
That’s 5 points not 7
And it reads like a guide for phychopaths. You’ll feel important when you do something important, whatever happened to that?
