Thanks for commenting Dequei! I hear you, it can be hard trying to build up others but I have faith in you! Is there any reason in particular you’re not interested to? I’d love to learn more about your reasoning.
I’m not who you’re asking but for my part, I genuinely feel bored by people. I’m sure everyone has something interesting, but I can’t be bother to stick around until I hear something interesting that would not bore me to tears and that may or may not come. I wish I could, but I want to rip my nails out during small talk.
I have very few friends, but have deep connections with them. I realize that they were people I were forced to spend time with (colleagues, school neighbors, roommates), so I know that people are worth sticking around and listening to, but that’s just such a draining gamble I do not want to take.
Recently, I’ve been trying to build up my friend network, because very few of the friends who I have deep connections with live near me at the moment. I know that it’s not plausible to skip straight to that easy and meaningful stage of friendship that I’m craving, but it’s so exhausting to weather what feels like an endless stream of superficial small talk, in which the vast majority of conversations won’t lead to anything more meaningful.
I don’t even mind small talk necessarily, if it has the potential to lead to more interesting conversation, but as you highlight, it ultimately comes down to a gamble.
But I am not really interested.
I think this advice is more for interactions where you ARE interested in the person and want to build a genuine connection
or manipulate them
Thanks for commenting Dequei! I hear you, it can be hard trying to build up others but I have faith in you! Is there any reason in particular you’re not interested to? I’d love to learn more about your reasoning.
That comment gives me the creeps sounds exactly like an llm.
I’m not who you’re asking but for my part, I genuinely feel bored by people. I’m sure everyone has something interesting, but I can’t be bother to stick around until I hear something interesting that would not bore me to tears and that may or may not come. I wish I could, but I want to rip my nails out during small talk.
I have very few friends, but have deep connections with them. I realize that they were people I were forced to spend time with (colleagues, school neighbors, roommates), so I know that people are worth sticking around and listening to, but that’s just such a draining gamble I do not want to take.
Yeah, I feel you.
Recently, I’ve been trying to build up my friend network, because very few of the friends who I have deep connections with live near me at the moment. I know that it’s not plausible to skip straight to that easy and meaningful stage of friendship that I’m craving, but it’s so exhausting to weather what feels like an endless stream of superficial small talk, in which the vast majority of conversations won’t lead to anything more meaningful.
I don’t even mind small talk necessarily, if it has the potential to lead to more interesting conversation, but as you highlight, it ultimately comes down to a gamble.