Your brain is there to keep you alive
It isn’t there to make you happy
Life isn’t fair, it never was, and it never will be
Just make the most of things, because it’s all we have
Observational bias : You remember only the bad ones, especially as they are the ones most likely to wake you, and thus cross the memory barrier to the conscious. You likely have good ones as well that you don’t remember.
If it really bothers you consider keeping a dream journal for a few months which should make you able to remember more, and more of your dreams. If it turns out you really have no good dreams, the next step is to learn lucid dreaming and fix that shit. If that’s too much work, you can try repeating “I will have good dreams” in your head as you go to sleep, you might be lucky.
Has anyone else had that dream where a friend is explaining some sort of obscure trumpet offshoot with a tremolo key and a ridiculously intricate tuning compensator valve, and then he’s holding one except it’s basically a very small trombone with a weird apparatus off to one side, and then he plays it and the overtones are so incredibly rich that a single note almost sounds like a chord?
No?
Just me?
Okay.
You might. But the scary or anxiety producing dreams are more likely to wake you up.
As far as I know- and I’m far from an expert here- dreams are really just your brain trying to make sense of your brain doing whatever the fuck it is your brain is doing why you sleep. (maybe a de-fragmentation cycle to keep everything nice and functional? bad analogy, probably.)
in any case, your brain is trying to make sense of signals and synapses firing off, in what is basically a random pattern. so it cobbles together a reality as best it can and fit things to that.
Its also trying to maintain a certain amount of continuity with where you are. So, if you’re anxious while you fall a sleep, your brain is going to incorporate that anxiety.
Also, as Bigfish mentioned, the freaky/weird/anxious ones are more likely to wake you up so that you actually remember them.
In any case, I would suggest maybe changing your bedtime routine up and finding something positive/calming to focus on. crotchet works well for me. but it could be just about anything. a feel-good novel, or whatever. (I also suggest turning the screens off.)
might not change that the only things you remember are the unpleasant ones, but it might make them less frequent.
This is mostly correct. It’s also the case that “dreams” are formed after you wake up. You aren’t dreaming while you are asleep, your brain is firing random shit that makes no sense. As soon as you start to wake it tries to piece together what the fuck was going on into something resembling a narrative. This piecing together is part of the waking up and not a part of the sleeping. This is why you can have a dream about an alarm going of for seemingly tens of minutes or even hours, while you are being woken up by your alarm going off. Your alarm probably hasn’t been going for more than a few seconds, but your brain incorporates it into the narrative. Now this isn’t to say you can’t have a bad dream or nightmare and be woken up by them. The random firing can definitely cause enough stress to wake you up. Especially if you are ill (fever dreams) or under a lot of stress in general, your brain can misbehave during sleep and wake you up. It’s just that the “story” part of the dream only happens when you wake up, while you are sleeping it is random.
Oh this is interesting. I’ve recently come to terms with the amazing plasticity of the brain. So if the brain assembles a narrative only after the flood of random stimuli, it should be possible to train it to use certain baselines for what narratives to assemble.
Any neurologists and psychiatrists and other brain specialists in the house?
IIRC, what you’re describing is called Lucid Dreaming. most people who lucid dream are aware, though some can actively control their dreams. The degree of control varies, though.
How much cheese are you eating?
Not much. I hate cheese unless its like pizza or a burger.
Is this some nutrient deficiency thing, cuz I for a moment I thought you were talking about if I were dreaming about cheese or something lol
the idea that cheese affects your dreams is kinda… folklore. Most likely, it’s simply the act of eating right before bed is the problem. (your body doing digestion stuff affects your sleep cycle, making it hard for you to sleep well.)
Just the cheese ≠ nightmares thing
It’s a way of organizing, learning and preparing you for the day ahead. It would be useful if it’s about life or death stuff. For me I stress too much about small stuff until that’s all I see, so sometimes we need to watch some gore and car crash videos to gain perspective.
I once saw a mushroom cloud outside my window, then I woke up…
Wtf am I supposed to do about a fucking nuke lmfao
move to Jericho.
(iykyk.)
Get under your desk with your hands on your head. Get inside a fridge from the 40’s or earlier. Do a journal entry. Make a pose that will leave future scientists confused as hell.
