• pseudo@jlai.lu
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    And that, young people, is why you should not post your photo on the internet.

    Be glad that’s not even something sexual.

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    If this is true, holy shit. I once dated a woman 16 years older than I was, I was 26. She had 4 kids ranging from 8, 17, 19, 20. I never attempted to parent the older 3 kids, and they never asked me my age; it was an unspoken agreement. I did parent the 8 year old. The older kids asked for my help a handful of times over the 7 years I was a part of their family, and I happily helped them and stepped up when I could. They were shocked I helped. I was like look, I’m not your parent, I’m not gonna tell you how to live your life, but you are still family and I got your back.

    In retrospect, it was a pretty unhealthy relationship, but I was dumb in many ways in my 20s.

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      Not dumb at all, it was a core life experience, not much different than many people go through. It’s fairly common with the gender roles reversed.

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      Yeah when I was being the young hot piece of ass for a woman with a kid my age I knew where I stood: proof mom is a cougar

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      I read “She was 26” and kept trying to figure out that math because I didn’t like the answer I was coming up with. Turns out it’s just my reading comprehension that wasn’t working out.

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        Not OC but it’s always retrospective. I am 38 and look back at my 20s and reflect on mistakes. Caring too much about how I was perceived, not caring enough about how I perceived myself. Not being honest with myself. Fortunately years and increased responsibility put into perspective the important versus the unimportant. I focus in things that make me happy, make my family happy. I focus less on doing things just because other people are doing them. I did a lot of stuff I didn’t want to do in my 20s because of where I was at in life.

        And hey, not everyone’s dumb in their 20s. And if you’re in your 20s, there’s no point in reflecting on it. You are where you are, you do what you do, your life will end up wherever it ends up.

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      Haven’t had a problem with it. Life’s expensive, I couldn’t afford anything, but I still can’t and I don’t think I would’ve otherwise.

      I dropped out of collge at 23 and didn’t know what to do with my life. So took a job in a factory and we had a kid.

      Now I’m 35 and I’m older, wiser, better. And I’m now finishing my bachelor and starting my career as a software developer. All while many other software developers my age are dropping out because of burn out or bore out.

      I’d argue it’s much more fun to figure out parenthood while you’re young and relatively free with plenty of time and energy for your kid. than to figure out parenthood when you’re older, more tired and have to work a demanding career.

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        you missed the best time to figure out parenthood

        but good on you for self improvement while working and raising a kid

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        Everyone is different, but a lot of studies show that late 20s / early 30s is a sweet spot for stability and not encountering big risks with conceiving.

        That said, having kids in your early 20’s, and early 30’s both sounds miserable to me.

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      Bright side is that they’re out of the house by 45. Still though, I’d rather be relatively free of responsibilities at 25 than 45.

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      I mean, first you have to know eachother since you were 14, your parents change you schools because her comportment is being problematic but she finds you anyway… Then you can lie about being neither left nor right while pandering to the alt right, and only then you get to be president.

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        Very important step you missed: be scouted out by the financial elite early on, then have them groom you every step of the way.