• abbadon420@sh.itjust.works
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      4 hours ago

      Haven’t had a problem with it. Life’s expensive, I couldn’t afford anything, but I still can’t and I don’t think I would’ve otherwise.

      I dropped out of collge at 23 and didn’t know what to do with my life. So took a job in a factory and we had a kid.

      Now I’m 35 and I’m older, wiser, better. And I’m now finishing my bachelor and starting my career as a software developer. All while many other software developers my age are dropping out because of burn out or bore out.

      I’d argue it’s much more fun to figure out parenthood while you’re young and relatively free with plenty of time and energy for your kid. than to figure out parenthood when you’re older, more tired and have to work a demanding career.

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        49 minutes ago

        you missed the best time to figure out parenthood

        but good on you for self improvement while working and raising a kid

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        Everyone is different, but a lot of studies show that late 20s / early 30s is a sweet spot for stability and not encountering big risks with conceiving.

        That said, having kids in your early 20’s, and early 30’s both sounds miserable to me.

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      Bright side is that they’re out of the house by 45. Still though, I’d rather be relatively free of responsibilities at 25 than 45.