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Vasectomy solves all your problems, dude.
Broadly speaking I agree since entitled guys certainly exist but also I’ve heard some women describe condom sex as feeling like getting fucked with a sandwich baggie and not their favorite
“feels like I’m being fucked by a rubber duck” are words from my now wife that I won’t ever forget.
Neither sex prefers condoms to no condoms. No pair of sexual partners ever utilize them unless they have a good reason to (and even with a good reason, many people don’t, lol).
Neither sex prefers condoms to no condoms.
I can’t speak for everyone in my gender, but I’ve rarely found an issue with them. Desensitizes the man so he lasts longer, comes pre-lubricated so that’s one less thing to worry about, and neatly addresses the post-sex mess. There’s even a little fun foreplay right before the main event, if you’re feeling kinky.
No pair of sexual partners ever utilize them unless they have a good reason to (and even with a good reason, most people don’t, lol).
Especially early in a relationship, they were always bog standard for me. Rarely met a partner who didn’t feel the same way. Admittedly, the AIDS epidemic was in my rear view mirror growing up, so maybe I’m just more paranoid about unprotected sex than the Zoomers.
I can’t speak for everyone in my gender, but I’ve rarely found an issue with them.
Not what I said, though. Do you prefer sex with a condom to sex without? If not, you align with what I said.
Especially early in a relationship, they were always bog standard for me.
That’s obviously in the “good reason” category. Also agrees with the other part of my sentence, as tons of short-sighted people forgo them altogether, including one-night stands with strangers.
Do you prefer sex with a condom to sex without?
I don’t have a strong opinion either way. I like sex and I like a sense of safety. With new partners, or old partners who fear a risk of pregnancy, condoms guarantee both and that makes me feel good coming and going.
I don’t prefer unprotected sex when it leaves me paranoid the day after. There’s more to the experience than just degrees of friction.
You’re missing my point, which I thought was clear, but add “when the condom is not preventing anything” to the end of the bit you quoted to clarify it.
My point is that, unless you have a good reason to do it (the source of the “sense of safety” and the prevention of the “paranoia”, described above), you’re obviously not going to do it.
If your partner is infertile, and you know that both of you have no STIs, neither of you are going to want to use a condom. Condoms are used because they’re needed, not because they’re wanted.
My birth control is my face. Been working great.
What a weird way to tell us you are really into facials…
My gf never allowed the use of them since day one
Tried them when she had her iud out briefly and she didn’t enjoy whatsoever
But man bad I guess
I mean it’s her choice, which I think is the important part to consider here. Not all birth control medications affect women the same. Some women can be on birth control and the side effects are actually helpful. But a lot of birth control medications really fuck with them, leading to some nasty unintended side effects that seem pretty wild when compared to the only side effect of appropriate condom usage of “doesn’t feel as good.”
The meme isn’t saying “man bad” it’s saying “side effects of condoms aren’t nearly as bad as fucking with women’s hormones.”
That’s true, but it’s also worth considering that it’s not an either/or option and the use cases vary a bit.
Both can be used as contraception.
Birth control doesn’t block disease.
Women can use birth control to control their own reproductive cycle without (in most cases) needing to coordinate with anyone else except maybe a prescribing physician, and has allowed them to have much more freedom of lifestyle since invented. It reduces the worry that a partner may try to baby-trap them with the “oops condom broke” or pulling an Assange and removing it partway into coitus. The common varieties of latex condom are not an option for everyone due to allergies etc, and sometimes even without the allergies can have other negative physical side effects
Birth control CAN have negative side effects. It also CAN have positive side effects (some use it for bad acne, or to reduce cramps) due to that same fucking with hormones. I know women who use it for either situation rather than preventing condition
Birth control (pills) plus condoms are also more effective than just one of the other.
That said, the final choice of birth control should absolutely be with a women (so long as it’s an honest one) but sometimes in a relationship it’s worth a discussion of the benefits and drawbacks between both parties.
Can confirm the women’s hormones part. When my wife was trying a new birth control pill one time, she was extremely paranoid about everything. It took a while to figure out the new pill was the source. She normally has some anxiety, but this was well off the charts. Other pills caused different issues, it was a roller coaster there for a while.
yeah I dated a couple women who loved their birth control because their periods were really bad, and the pill removed that from their life almost completely. Then other women who never could find one that worked for them, and so we relied solely on condoms. I loved having sex with all of them, 11/10 would not impregnate again
Nah this meme is just misandrist rage bait. Male birth control doesn’t exist because we haven’t figured it out yet. I think we are getting close though.
male birth control was like, the first birth control we invented? condoms?
Also vasectomies are stupid easy to perform, and even if you change your mind afterwards, all your baby making stuff is still present. They can completely reverse a vasectomy within 5 -7 years, and after that, IVF. Anyone who reads this meme as misandrist either lacks reading comprehension or is wildly misogynist.
I’m talking male birth control pills. Condoms aren’t really effective enough to be birth control on their own
I mean, is 98% effective not effective enough?
I personally wouldn’t want a male birth control pill, because I’d have to remember to take it, and it’d inevitably have unforeseen side effects. Add into that the hassle of getting it paid for through insurance, having to go to a doctor for it, what if that one doesn’t work, gotta try a different one, each time you have to commit to taking that pill for several months to ensure your body adjusts to it before you can rule it out… what a nightmare! Nah, I’ll just wrap my willy until it’s time for a vasectomy.
I’ve gotten someone pregnant before with a condom so my experience is different than yours I guess ha
lmao ok I understand you now, brother haha
same with my gf. allergic to latex and hates the fact that other options use animal skin. so i have no choice but to go in unprotected. tough world but ill live 😂
Non-latex non-animal condoms are quite common where I’m from, are they rare in your country?
ive only found latex or animal skin, but i also havent looked in 6 years
She isn’t allergic, she just says she doesn’t enjoy fucking a sandwich bag
no she is allergic she cant wear latex gloved
Oh my bad I was talking about my situation ha
ITT: A bunch of sexless virginal men’s rights activists
Get a snip, Skip
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA HILARIOUS, I’VE NEVER HEARD THIS CONCEPT BEFORE
Multiple previous GFs and my current fiance hate them
The last two sentences are why, unfortunately, birth control will always be the primary purview of women.
No matter how good, convenient or easily usable birth control for men becomes, women are the ones who actually have to deal with the consequences of unintended pregnancy, and not using birth control yourself risks you having to deal with it when your partner either lies to you about using it, or simply makes a mistake and forgets to use it.
Men have to deal with women lying (edit and honest mistakes with forgetting) about being on birth control as well. Women have the physical consequences, but both parties suffer the lifetime consequences of having to care for a child if either lies.
Even if we had a reversable birth control for men that was readily available, I’d be shocked if women just blindly trusted the man that they were on it.
There’s a lot of trust going both ways and I imagine because of that both women and men would want to be on birth control until they trusted their partner sufficiently to make the decision for one or both to stop.
Edit: like I’ve never had a 1 night stand, and even if STDs didn’t exist, I’d never trust that she’s on birth control if she said she was, I’d still use a condom.
I also know one couple who had a kid because neither bothered to check with each other about birth control… no condoms, she wasn’t on it, he didn’t ask, and she got pregnant.
Utterly baffling to me.
Those are similar to if not precisely the circumstances under which the majority of unplanned pregnancies happen, and nearly 46% of all pregnancies are unplanned.
Lots and lots of people are just horny idiots who are really bad at considering the potential long-term consequences of their short-term actions.
I… did not know it was that high, and the reason was that stupid.
Wow.
And these are the people who then have children.
Corrected to nearly 46%, with source. 🫠
No matter how good, convenient or easily usable birth control for men becomes
This is a strange thing to say, considering that contraception has never been more effective, more convenient, or more easily usable for men, than for women.
condoms are super convenient, what?
An object you have to physically carry around with you and have on your person in the moment every single time you have sex, versus things like:
- a pill that, while needing to take it daily, leaves you protected at all times, you don’t need it on hand at the time of the sexual encounter. And most pills aren’t even that strict about what time you take it each day, as long as it’s around the same time every day
- a vaginal ring that only needs to be swapped out once a month (and can safely be removed for a few hours during sex itself without losing efficacy, if desired)
- an injection that lasts 3 months
- an arm implant that can last 5 years once inserted, depending on type
- an IUD that can last for over a decade once inserted, depending on type
Condoms are far less convenient than any of these.
This is referencing ongoing research and efforts into developing male birth control, obviously. That’s why I wuite clearly wrote “becomes” and not “is”. That’s a fufure tense, so the current or past state of affairs isn’t exactly relevant, now is it ?
I prefer to be on the pill, honestly. I get that it isn’t the sane experience fir everyone, but there are multiple other options other than the two mentioned. Even when it comes to pills, there is also the mini pill which has no estrogen and therefore can help with some of the negative symptoms. I started taking that one because I had a few negative reactions to regular birth control pills.
With the mini pill you have to be pretty precise with the time of day where you take it but once you have that down, it’s just so pleasant. In my case, it entirely stops menstruation and stabilizes me. I get to live a very normal life without all this cycle shit disrupting me.
I get that not all women feel about their periods like I do, but for me, it has always felt like an assault on my body that I have to be in pain, have crazy mood swings and feeling gross every single month. I don’t have any of it anymore thanks to the mini pill.
Again, there are many more options to go for when it comes to birth control, other than pills and condoms and in general I don’t want us to demonize it. Especially not in these times where there is a genuine push in American politics to spread anti-birthcontrol propaganda online.
Odd, this seems like an entirely made up circumstance.
Signed, guy who refuses to use condoms and have sex as a result. Yes, you heard me right, you can turn down sex. It’s insane, I know, but trust me.
Edit: I should say, negative consequences of BC are very real. It is the reason I simply say no.
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It’s my personal opinion that having sex with a condom is worse than not having sex, and I’m not getting a vasectomy until I’m confident I never want kids. Their reversibility is dubious at best and it’s not worth the risk if you aren’t 100% sure. I’m pretty sure I’ll never have kids, but I’m not even confident enough about how I’ll feel a decade from now to get a tattoo… so making such a big choice is out of the question.
I’m happy to just not have sex with women who aren’t on birth control. If you feel this is wrong, the solution is simple. We can just not have sex together. Problem solved.
It’s my personal opinion that having sex with a condom is worse than not having sex
Hard disagree. Good sex with a condom is still good sex. Plus if your reason for using a condom is birth control you only need the condom for PIV, and everything else can be completely unwrapped. I don’t know about everyone else but I fucking love foreplay and just worshipping my partner’s body while they do the same to me. Honestly it’s the best part of having sex
Plus there’s something super sexy about getting all hot and heavy, teasing and playing then grabbing the condom and unwrapping it. The moment you or your partner break that package open there’s a commitment that this thing is going on thos penis because this penis is about to go into this vagina, and it’s happening right now, not in 20 minutes after more play, it’s happening right now.
Or don’t just take my word for it, take GirlOnTheNet’s word for it (obviously NSFW!)
“Hard disagree” with an opinion? He’s not asserting anything, just saying how he feels, lol.
there’s something super sexy about getting all hot and heavy, teasing and playing then grabbing the condom and unwrapping it
I think you just have a condom kink, lol. As a furry who’s been exposed to a LOT of kink, this sounds exactly like how artists who draw condom-centric furry porn describe condom usage.
For the vast majority of people of both sexes, condoms are a necessary nuisance, at best, and they’d much rather get to it without having to deal with one.
Nah, I find it nearly impossible to have an orgasm with a condom. That, and it genuinely just hurts. I know there are specially made condoms for people on the larger side, but what’s the point? I really just don’t want to have sex with a condom. I’m happy to just not have sex. It’s not a big deal to wait until I’m with someone I love for the long term and have a conversation about long term solutions. I’m looking for a life partner, not a hookup, and condoms aren’t really a “every time you have sex for rest of your life” type solution, both in terms of efficacy and satisfaction.
until I’m confident I never want kids
With the way the world is going, reproducing is certainly a choice. But if it truly remains a concern, there is the option of freezing sperm.
I got a vasectomy and it has been amazing. Easily one of the best decisions of my life.
After hearing about embryos/eggs being misused, I can’t trust my genetic material to some corporation. If I could do it myself that might be an option but hardware fails. I’d rather just keep my faculties intact and be discerning with who I have sex with.
That’s a very fair concern, given the fuckery we’ve seen from corpos.
With the way the world is going, reproducing is certainly a choice.
Oh, please, with this nihilistic nonsense. When in history would you have said “it’s a great time to reproduce!”?
When in history would you have said “it’s a great time to reproduce!”?
It’s irrelevant. “It’s a choice” is also quite literal; modern contraceptives have only really been available for less than 100 years.
Education and access to information are also key points that cannot be hand-waived.
Edit: I’ll offer a counter-question. How bad would things have to get before you decided that it would be a bad idea to reproduce?
This is so nihilistic, dramatic, and ridiculous.
The lives of ordinary people have been far far far far worse for 99.999% of human history.
Don’t be such a doomer.
What? You are opposed to freezing sperm? Or opposed to vasectomies in general?
THIS.
I do not know why women don’t 100% block an asshole who doesn’t want to slip one on.
Mostly because the women I have been with were long term and they preferred not having a condom and on the pill. So I agree with them. It does feel better. But I always try one for the first few times. But it always migrated to not using one.
Condoms do 100% suck. Especially if they hacked off a piece of your dick that significantly reduces its sensitivity and function when you were a baby.
I literally do not enjoy condom sex at all. That’s why I got a vasectomy. And also I don’t want kids ever anyway and I wish I had gotten a vasectomy the instant I hit 18, what a waste.
Sorry — but if you don’t enjoy condom-sex, I think a fair consequence is that you are excluded from sex.
Oh fuck off. It’s up to the couple, not you.
So by that vain, it’s fair to say any woman who can’t take the pill should also be excluded from sex or what ?
Nope. Just men who won’t do their fair share.
Yeah, thanks for letting me know you’re not worth talking too. You’re the one who should be excluded from sex.
Touchy.
Brave that you’d reveal your mental illness so openly.
I’m sure you’re just trying to be insulting… but which of the mental illnesses do you think I’m projecting?
And thank you for revealing your own intolerance of the mentally ill. Nice.
Conservatism. You’ll deny it, but that’s what you have. Sex negativity is fundamentally conservative and authoritarian.
And thank you for revealing your own intolerance of the mentally ill. Nice.
My sister has bipolar, is an annoying tankie, and is generally narcissistic and unhinged. I had to live with her for the past few months because she needed a place to stay because she broke up her boyfriend. It was fucking miserable and I kind of think shes a bad person like yourself. But I’d still rather live with her than even momentarily interact in person with someone who thinks people should just be excluded from sex because they can’t enjoy it with condoms. You’re piece of shit, I hope you have not reproduced.
You wish you lived my life. I wouldn’t trade with you.
Also… zero compassion for your sister is really attractive. I’m sure those romantic partners are just lining up.
Literally said he got a vasectomy at 18, your point is stupid.
No, they said (emphasis mine):
I wish I had gotten a vasectomy the instant I hit 18
The sentence before that: “That’s why I got a vasectomy”
He got a vasectomy.
He did not get a vasectomy when he was 18.
The other guy wrote: “Literally said he got a vasectomy at 18, your point is stupid”, conflating the two statements from OP.
Yeah, true. My bad. Shouldn’t write comments when not paying attention lol
Condoms help also against diseases. No way I put my dick somewhere unprotected…
Don’t have sex with randoms?
Yeah, no.
Condoms are great then but still not 100% effective
