I feel this is a safe place to say, for years now I have cared for (the Beings Rights in me says, cannot own nature, thus Living Beings) a dog in Hospice status, example literally, walking skeleton)…
…& as in my profile, I am about to put the dog down, been thinking, thus crying about this for weeks, had the standard for the decision decided for months & for weeks known it was going to happen, crying right now.
I am also a diehard not Religious person-Everyone has the most powerful thing we know, just different degrees of us understanding it & working through it’s limitations, as all of them have Challenges, to us. What are they? They are all of our brains/minds, together they are even more powerful, then as individuals. So when I put her life to an end, we will never know each other again!
I have told everyone it has to be an emotional free/logical decision, to reach the right as possible time; but doing so hardest thing in the world! I HATE HAVING TO CHOOSE DEATH FOR OTHERS WHO NEED IT, BUT CANNOT THEMSELVES! Done it for way too many animals I care for, because live in Unincorporated, Ag. & Politically Right dominated area. Thankfully, I choose to not over being too emotional, in such decisions & situations, comfort zone. Have had relatives (even in the same household) react emotionally & try to either race the dog to her death, way too soon or prevent me from creating the standards with The Vet., though last week, the dog’s suffering is in everyone’s face.
But I wish, I could switch back & forth to & from my Mr. Spock a lot less emotional brain, back to my level head, but more emotional. Both are needed for healing.
For all repliers & readers,
Thank you, so much,
Yesterday, I dug-out the grave plot, awesome distraction, though tomorrow afternoon she will be gone, you would think not. I had to get it deep enough & Etc. through our coral rock. Never once thought of the sad or cried, but about the labor & getting it right & how much the indigenous Life Oak will benefited from her decomposing & how I could state it is her grave plot.
I feel for you, having had to put down a dog in 2022 and having one who might be getting close.
I feel the need to point something out, however; as the meme goes, “Sir, this is
a Wendy’sc/Risa.” In other words, you’re making a lot of serious posts in a community primarily meant for memes and crapposting, where we come to relax. For general Trek-related discussion, c/startrek is probably a better idea.Anyhow, sorry for your pain, and here’s a belated welcome to the fediverse.
Sorry, to bring too much seriousness here. There just is not enough ‘Star Trek’ places here, & here is few places not overrun with BLANKS participants ruining it all.
I do have say, you are the only one so far that has expressed this.Thank you,
You should be proud of your ability of regulate your emotions such that you can make the decisions based on logic and reason. But also take the time to process your emotions. It would be illogical to deny them. Even Vulcans need time and effort to do that!
And these emotions exist for a reason. I’m certain this dog must have had a wonderful last leg of it’s life, since they had someone that cared for them so much, that it hurts you to finally have to make the decision to put the dog down.
Live long and prosper, so that many more may experience your love.
Thank you, it is unavoidable, Being Emotional. While I hate I-others making decisions under emotional states of mind, anger-sadness, I also know the way our minds work through extreme sad & Etc. emotions future events, that are going to have to happen, thus predictable, is to express as much as possible how one feels (emotions) about the future events, before they happen.
If it helps, one of the coolest parts of that show (TOS) is the dynamic between that triad of rational Spock (superego?), emotional Bones (id?), and Captain Kirk (ego?) whose job it was to integrate them together.
You have the privilege of listening to both voices. You are living out the responsibility of having to deal with both. Though it’s probably okay to take a mental health break? 💔
Days after having her put down, I am going to watch one of favorite SciFi Political Movies Series- Avatar. Then later this week’s Sat., I am going to clean-up a beach, for the very 1st time ever.
“Touching grass” (well, a beach in this case) is undeniably one of the best things you can do. Exposure to nature, and helping others, I can’t think of anything better:-).
Hey, your dog had an awesome parent, you know that? 🐶
It occurred to me, how interesting your “Touching grass” comment was,…
…I used to ride my bicycle to our community’s grass areas in-front of isolated & quiet properties, so I could lay in the grass, experience nature’s bugs (a lot of Bumble Bees; was making my own sunscreen then, that attracted pollinators) & able to concentrate on the work on my ideas for inventions, sports computer gaming & book.Later on, I found a community of immigrant workers, of the local Ag. businesses, at the local & historical grocery store. Until after they price gauged me, on ice cubes, when my electricity would not stay on, for weeks of I spending money on their cheaper & larger amount of ice cubes.
Touching grass can be very soothing.
I do love nature, just not public beaches, at least in South Florida’s needles-pollution beaches. I prefer The USA’s Northwest, Washington, Oregon & Alaska, & other countries’ regions (like Scandinavia <SP?>) with same mountains & trees & nature, just hate their cold. So it is more about distraction into my doing right/activist mind.
It is an excellent distraction, as far as distractions go. It won’t be perfect, of course, but it will accomplish something all the same. (“Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good”:-)
True, I will need a distraction, Not to be sexist or anything like that, but to be real, the possibility for this living in a isolating area, single, fit & 50ish man, doing something people think is good thing to do, seeing sexy, bikini clad, young & fit women is a great distraction & possibilities.
Definitely. And they will likewise presumably enjoy being looked at, respectfully and not creepily of course:-).
But maybe also carve out some time specifically to be alone with your thoughts, so as to help yourself heal? Or if it’s too soon, that’s understandable - just be kind to yourself however you can manage.
I feel for you and being on the position to have to make this decision. It’s a rough time but you’ll get through it and the universe will fill that void in due time.
So true, time will heal all.
I remember the Being I have known, adopted mixed dog as a puppy, had Blood Cancer, I had put down. It nearly tore me apart, I eye to eye with him, cried & told him how good of dog he was, as he died.
I have had to put down loved ones. I came to understand that it is morally wrong to create an intelligent creature and force it to be dependent on you. It is morally wrong to create the situation where one has to make these decisions for another.
If I understand your reply, which is shocking to me.
Morally Wrong!?!?!?!?
Is it morally right to let them suffered, to an horrible death, like would happen if the animal was a wild animal suffering for the same problem- killing the animal? starving to death as that animal’s own family/pack members take the food she can no longer consume? or killed for food, by the superior predator?
I think you have misunderstood. At least, I have no idea what you are saying or how it relates to my claims. I said nothing about the act of euthanasia. It is indeed necessary, but only because of choices that were made long prior that were totally unnecessary and were not made with that individual’s interests in mind. Like I clearly wrote, it is morally wrong TO CREATE THAT SITUATION, where you will inevitably have to make a choice about another individual’s life and death. When it comes time to make that decision, the immoral act has already occurred.
Oh, okay, thank you, for clearing-up most it.
“choices that were made long prior that were totally unnecessary and were not made with that individual’s interests in mind.”
What choices? By whom? Are you talking regiliously, a higher being?
Maybe. I mean, on the one hand, undeniably yes, while on the other hand, cats in particular are simply too numerous in most spaces, and dogs are even an entire species altered to the whims of humankind, so given that existing backstory, which is least morally repugnant, to entertain their dependency or to now suddenly leave them to their own devices?
Either way I am glad that you are someone who wrestles with moral choices. Whether we end up agreeing on the outcome of those or not, I think that caring beats uncaring anytime.
We don’t “leave them to their own devices”, we stop forcing them to exist for the purposes of human exploitation. Those animals which are already dependent on humans for their wellness are not the animals I am discussing. They have already been horribly maimed, and they deserve our care. Indeed, ALL the animals we create are owed the exact same unconditional love and protection as our own children. But we should not be creating them in the first place.
Good job doing something so hard with so much care. Your dog was lucky to have someone care so much for them. I am crying too from remembering how I felt in similar times and imagining how you must feel now.
Thank you for treating life so delicately.
Thank you,
Life is priceless,
That fact that I know is the reason I believe in Peaceful Space Exploration, that current mainstream Space SciFi cannot avoid.
