I mean, giving up on pursuing romantic relationships isn’t the same as giving up on yourself. Annoying that purposefully deviating from the “marriage, house, kids” framework IS seen as giving up on yourself.
It’s healthier to give up on something that isn’t working out for you over keeping up with something that makes you miserable.
I’m in the tunnel of the cat passed away and I don’t want to go through that heartbreak again so I’m just alone now.
I’m in a boat next to you but I think that looking back I’m glad to have had the pleasure of knowing and loving my cat for all those years she had in her. Her passing might’ve completely destroyed me but i think it’s better than never having loved so I’m thinking about getting a pair of cats maybe.
Im sorry for your loss
I don’t understand this symbolism. I moved in with my partner and it was at his suggestion that we visited the pound to get a cat. Then, one week, hey, we’re getting another cat so the other one has a buddy. If you’re ok with it. So we have two cats.
My male siblings have cats. One of them has 5 cats.
Thus I find these references eye roll inducing.
Lonely people get cats for companionship. It’s not that deep.
It’s typically associated with women though, not men.
Be the change you want to see, give men more cats.
Women aren’t “ditching dating for cats.” They’re reacting to the fallout of modern feminism blowing up the old relationship structure.
For decades, feminism pushed the idea that women shouldn’t rely on a man, shouldn’t stay home, shouldn’t want a provider, shouldn’t want traditional roles. That message didn’t just change women — it changed men. The kind of men who used to take pride in providing, protecting, and leading in a family? They were shamed, labeled oppressive, or told their masculinity was toxic.
So what happened?
Now you’ve got a generation of men who don’t want to — or straight up can’t — provide. Men who expect both people to work full-time because that’s “modern equality,” but still want the woman to handle the home because they were raised that way. The traditional man who actually took responsibility, carried the load, and made it possible for a woman to be a stay-at-home wife? Practically extinct.
Women didn’t stop wanting that option. The option disappeared.
So when women look around and realize the only deals available are:
Work full-time
Do most of the housework
Take care of the kids
Split bills 50/50 with a man who isn’t stepping up
And still be told they’re “lucky”
They’re not choosing cats instead of men.
They’re choosing cats instead of a lopsided relationship where the masculine role was gutted, traditional values are gone, and the kind of good men they actually want no longer exist in meaningful numbers.
It’s not that women changed. It’s that feminism wiped out the men who made traditional life possible.
That’s the problem.
So youre saying women grew and men stayed spoiled shitty children who only had one trick and couldn’t even eat pussy or do their own laundry once women addex that trick to our repitoire?
And that’s feminism’s fault?
Also, those men still exist, but they learned to eat pussy and do their own laundry when their lady also works. Its just that you don’t notice them because the ones who can go thirty seconds without hitting their gf or shouting "BLOODANDSOIL!“ are too busy having a life to waste their time acknowledging delusional cringe assholes like you. I have met them.
The men that are out there for women are feminists that do equal work outside of the home and inside the home.
I do the cooking and some cleaning, my partner does some cleaning and the dishes, we both do yardwork.
Women don’t have to rely on a man to be subservient to or man be master to a woman, they can be equals together with deferral to the person who is better at a task (not because of gender roles but because of proficiency or enjoyment)
My grandmother didn’t have a choice, she got married and had kids, she was told she would die if she got pregnant again and never had sex again because my grandfather was a Catholic and wouldn’t have sex if there wasn’t a chance of a child.
Partners don’t need to accept that kind of trash choices anymore, feminism didn’t wipe out good men, it wiped out womens need to take the bad choice and choose nothing instead.
