• SparkleBooty@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    Women aren’t “ditching dating for cats.” They’re reacting to the fallout of modern feminism blowing up the old relationship structure.

    For decades, feminism pushed the idea that women shouldn’t rely on a man, shouldn’t stay home, shouldn’t want a provider, shouldn’t want traditional roles. That message didn’t just change women — it changed men. The kind of men who used to take pride in providing, protecting, and leading in a family? They were shamed, labeled oppressive, or told their masculinity was toxic.

    So what happened?

    Now you’ve got a generation of men who don’t want to — or straight up can’t — provide. Men who expect both people to work full-time because that’s “modern equality,” but still want the woman to handle the home because they were raised that way. The traditional man who actually took responsibility, carried the load, and made it possible for a woman to be a stay-at-home wife? Practically extinct.

    Women didn’t stop wanting that option. The option disappeared.

    So when women look around and realize the only deals available are:

    Work full-time

    Do most of the housework

    Take care of the kids

    Split bills 50/50 with a man who isn’t stepping up

    And still be told they’re “lucky”

    They’re not choosing cats instead of men.

    They’re choosing cats instead of a lopsided relationship where the masculine role was gutted, traditional values are gone, and the kind of good men they actually want no longer exist in meaningful numbers.

    It’s not that women changed. It’s that feminism wiped out the men who made traditional life possible.

    That’s the problem.

    • cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      6 days ago

      So youre saying women grew and men stayed spoiled shitty children who only had one trick and couldn’t even eat pussy or do their own laundry once women addex that trick to our repitoire?

      And that’s feminism’s fault?

      Also, those men still exist, but they learned to eat pussy and do their own laundry when their lady also works. Its just that you don’t notice them because the ones who can go thirty seconds without hitting their gf or shouting "BLOODANDSOIL!“ are too busy having a life to waste their time acknowledging delusional cringe assholes like you. I have met them.

    • Mycatiskai@lemmy.ca
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      7 days ago

      The men that are out there for women are feminists that do equal work outside of the home and inside the home.

      I do the cooking and some cleaning, my partner does some cleaning and the dishes, we both do yardwork.

      Women don’t have to rely on a man to be subservient to or man be master to a woman, they can be equals together with deferral to the person who is better at a task (not because of gender roles but because of proficiency or enjoyment)

      My grandmother didn’t have a choice, she got married and had kids, she was told she would die if she got pregnant again and never had sex again because my grandfather was a Catholic and wouldn’t have sex if there wasn’t a chance of a child.

      Partners don’t need to accept that kind of trash choices anymore, feminism didn’t wipe out good men, it wiped out womens need to take the bad choice and choose nothing instead.