• qarbone@lemmy.world
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    13 hours ago

    I don’t think “begrudging women a single test to see if someone is the type to explode over a single inconvenience” is the right hill to stick your flag on.

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      2 hours ago

      Trying to start a relationship by playing games is very much a good place to find red flags.

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        44 minutes ago

        It might seem like a game to you but that’s someone’s life.

        Do you have an alternative for how they should determine if a potential partner is a danger? Besides hiring a private detective or rolling the dice by finding out after they’re invested?

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          33 minutes ago

          If you can’t trust a stranger even a little bit then don’t date complete strangers. Limit your dating pool to your circle of friends, friends of friends, people you already know or that your friends vouch for.

    • Dnb@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      11 hours ago

      Yeah, I’d say it’s a red flag except there are a ton of crazies that this quickly filters for them and keeps them safe from.

      So in an ideal world it would be bad, but it makes sense in the one we live in.