Ngl as much as some of the stereotypes are true (I can actually cry now that I’m on E), others really aren’t (I get angrier more easily now, when I basically never did before). I’ve also heard of trans guys having an easier time crying on T. Disentangling what is actually caused by hormones and what is caused by cultural perceptions of gender is difficult (especially since T and E are part of cultural ideas too).
I still cry a lot :P just without tears most of the time
Interesting! I don’t think I ever had that, even if there were plenty of times where I wanted to cry
From my internal thoughts and talking to other trans people I think a large part is not disassociating and being more connected to your body.
Definitely my case, literally all of my emotions are part of me now instead of being at a distance (I was just aware of them, but didn’t really feel 'em)
That’s why you tie an onion to your belt like the old times
Wait what? I’ve never heard of that before…
It’s something I’ve experienced as well. Crying when I was angry was a real problem for me before T, now it doesn’t happen. I also find it harder to cry when I’m sad. I don’t feel sadness less deeply or anything, I just don’t cry like I used to.
I think it probably has a lot to do with not being cripplingly depressed from dysphoria, but I can feel the tendency creeping back if I’m late on my shot. I’m very convinced there is at least some hormonal component playing a part in that, just because it’s too consistent and its tendency to return when my hormone levels are low hasn’t changed much even as my main sources of dysphoria (periods and breasts) were removed.
yeah the opposite is also true - trans women report crying much more after starting E
This explains why I had periods of absolute sadness/depression but it didn’t even reflect on my face back when I was in 20s (cis m). Hated it so much.
Have you heard of the reverse (all the transfems who talk about how much more they cry after starting E)?
I start E on Monday and I think I might die of dehydration then
If you are also taking spiro, that’s a given anyways.
I’ve heard of that, and I actually hope it’s true. I’m going on E next month, and I had trouble crying actual tears since I had my masc puberty. Would be so liberating to actually let out some tears every once in a while :'>
No, to be honest. I’ve just never heard of that side effect in general (maybe I’m uninformed).
Edit: typo
As a cishet male, I’m actually curious about this, myself! I was super emotional as a kid, but in my mid to late teens I virtually lost the ability to cry. Instead, my “sad” or “stressed” emotions would come out as frustration or anger. Now, my son is in his teens and he’s going through the same thing, where he’s realizing he can’t cry like he used to. Definitely interested to know if this pretty much boils down to testosterone.
It’s a factor, but not the whole story. Social norms also influence things a whole lot.
I went through the same thing and it was a recurring source of dysphoria for me until I started HRT. Crying rocks!
I clearly remember the last time I had a full on breakdown emotional cry. It was when I was 17, and it suddenly became apparent to me that I never actually had an imaginary friend. I just pretended I did because I felt like that would make me special.
Needless to say, I was high off my ass when I came to that realization, but it was still devastating.
In all of the years since then, I may have, like, had a tear or two, or like a tiny little sob, but actually getting to that point where I could break down and cry and pour out all of those emotions that I’m sitting on, it feels like I have about the same chances as winning the lottery.
Let us know if you give AAs and E a shot to see how it affects you. Honestly, would be interesting to see how cis people react to a double-blinded trial like that, both directions. Obvious problem with that being cis people not want the effects. E at least is pretty slow with long-term physical changes, but T seems to have some pretty fast acting affects from my understanding.
As a fisher male I never cry when angry or sad, but I cry a lot on tender films where people either recognise sacrifice or sacrifice themselves. You know, the tearjerkers. So, no problem with tears, they just don’t come out with anger or sadness.
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