it takes some time to learn how and when to safeword. from experience i know that the most common thing stopping someone, both doms and subs, from using them is guilt - they don’t want to stop the play when they see the other person is having fun, perhaps it’s that?

if i were you i’d try to have that conversation again, try to stress the importance of clear and undeniable consent. how if they want to be treated roughly you need to feel safe doing it, and knowing that they will communicate when they get uncomfortable gives you that safety. but of course, i don’t know the whole context of your relationship so i don’t know if this would work, all i can do is wish you the best with that!

similar tone

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DRMtzZBEdrv/

the same way racism ended in 1964?

can i have some of your adhd?

my adhd only does want, and if there’s need without want it’s torture to start (dishes)

may i introduce you to - safewords & colour checks! :D

establish safewords with your partner, the deafult ones are:

green - keep going i like this

yellow - approaching my limit let’s pause

red - stop immediately and proceed to aftercare

at any point during play you can then ask them “colour?” and in a quick and definitive way you get to know how they feel and if it’s too much. (this also goes the other way! don’t be afraid to safeword as a dom if things get uncomfy for you). this helps a lot with the variety of things you can try out during a scene because it cuts short the worrying if your partner likes it or not, or if they mean the “stop” when they actually want you to keep going.

bdsm is more than just the hot stuff, it’s systems and safeties that allow the hot stuff to flourish safely and hot-ly <3

but i get ya, sometimes you want the same thing but a little to the left, and/or to loop the good moment in your mind. nothing wrong with that

to check the weather :) opens the calculator

big difference between someone using a tool to polish an already complete piece of music and someone using a tool to make a piece of music for them

may i introduce you to - BDSM. no need to imagine a scene when it’s happening! :)

it takes 8 min for your kettle to reach boil? why

why stop there! toss it into a pottery kiln at 2100°F and have it ready in less than 7min :)

this therefore means every gay man is old

and butch women (or simple women who dislike dressed) never get old

nahhh, in real life the photographer just looked up the next train and turned up regardless if it was a peak hour or empty train time. perhaps they even aimed for the off hour time to get a clean shot with no people in it (you never know if you’ll get a nice organic shot of a little crowd, or a mess, people are always a chaotic variable)

guessing it’s a recepie blog/person

i’m also guessing Sharon there substituted eggs for diet mayonnaise and baked in 350°C instead of 350°F

edit: turns out it’s even dumber. i reverse image searched and Marie Callander’s is a shop that sells frozen meals… so this pie was ready, literally all it needed was to visit an oven of a certain temperature for some time

any and all UI changes will make people angry

steam has had so few of them compared to idk youtube that, imo it’s fine even if it’s kinda pointless

doesn’t seem like any polish food to me but perhaps i’m uncultured (i’m polish, but bad at it), more like a freestyle beef wellington

that is a- strange way to describe a global pandemic

most people were stuck at homes worrying about their income or health

of course there was going to be regression, the world was frozen, events stopped, some places had heavy restrictions on leaving home to go anywhere, thousands were dying every day - not exactly a situation that nurtures progress or positive growth in a society

but it feels to me like Aziraphael would have a panic attack of Crowley started bratting to him. i couldddd see a soft dom potential but a fragile one

but then when i spin in bed like a rotisserie chicken it all comes off :(

i have adhd so i’m allowed to cheat here

my hobby shelf (fully stocked up), and a laptop.

for the 18+ version instead of a laptop there’s a set of BDSM gear

no way, Aziraphale is definitely the bottom, he wouldn’t be able to top to save the world (except that one time when he terrified everyone in hell)