This guy is 38 and she was part of some chatroom and he started talking to her 13 year old little sister in a way that very obviously had ill intent. She called him out on this and posted screenshots of that chatroom online. Now ever since this, he has a site where he archives almost everything she says online. She made a post about how she prefers cats over dogs, then he archived that and posted the link to the archive on his site saying “never trust a dog hater with anything” and it just goes on, and on, and on for years.
When she even makes a passing mention about him, even if he’s not named or only vaguely mentioned, he chimes in, and posts a link to his site with some variation of “don’t trust her, she’s not to be trusted” and links to pages on his site which were all made by him over the years in an attempt to maliciously discredit her. It’s often a gish-gallop of links.
He also says that he’s made an account on every site he knows of, likely in an attempt at surveilling or intimidating her.
Go talk to a fucking lawyer and stop seeking advice from people online!
The truth has never been more truer.
If these twisted statements are provably false - even if they contain elements of truth - then this is a case of libel.
Creating accounts everywhere someone is in order to track what they do and say is stalking.
Making repeated efforts to ruin a person’s day is harassment.
Contact law enforcement and/or legal representation. I’m not either of those but it seems like there’s a strong case here.
He’s hiding links in text that twists what’s actually in the links and those links do go to posts she made but it’s like he hides links in text so people don’t click them. A single sentence on his site can contain upwards of five or even ten links.
See it these links show up if you “view source” on a browser. Print the source as evidence to bring to a lawyer. Or find a lawyer who either knows how to find stuff online or has a good IT Person.
Be prepared for much more DARVO and other mind games. Be aware Law enforcement can not shield you from all of this, but is a good ally to have. Try to find other local women only clubs or victim helping organizations as allies.
Be aware if you search for them online, there are nutjob sites designed to hurt women in need. Go in person if you can, to pick up their vibe before you open up.
Stay safe! Best of Luck!
If he has uploaded photos of your friend from her social media to his site and she took those pictures, she could have a pathway towards DMCA striking his site down. Talk to a lawyer about it
OP, your friend is the victim of criminal cyberstalking and harassment. This dude should be reported to the authorities
My guess is that the guy has several red hats in his closet
Oh, without a doubt
Contact the registrar and host of the site. One or both will likely shut it down.
Also contact the police as others have said.
Send DM if you need assistance.
Good luck. Nothing illegal if it’s just screenshots and copies of her word. Like, what is the complaint?
Its called harassment. And its illegal.
Like I said, good luck proving that or paying a lawyer. Repeating what someone said isn’t illegal. And it’s especially harder when it’s done online.
Edit: I don’t really care if you agree with me or not. I’m in the US and if OP is also, this is very difficult and costly. You may be able to scare him into stopping by getting police involved, but maybe not. In fact, this is a civil issue, cops won’t do shit. And as someone who has been on both sides and now $15k into a defamation lawsuit right now, there is a good chance it will go nowhere.
This is stalking. She could get a restraining order which includes interacting with her online content, so if he continued to repost it would be a violation of the order.
Get the police involved
Call an attorney to see if there is anything that can be done.
Also, start archiving the website in order to compile evidence for later. Don’t count on this person leaving the site up.
Have a detailed, copy-pasted reply with links ready to go. Every time he pops his head up anywhere, remind anybody watching that he is a known pedophile. Also, talk to a lawyer about the possibility his behavior might rise to the level of harassment.
Careful, falls under libel if you can’t prove it.
I don’t think I’ve seen OP mention which country their friend is a citizen of. Many countries have libel laws that don’t care if the claims are true or not, but instead just look at what your intention is by making them.
I heard you can safely call someone an asshole
Wonder if creep would likewise be safe
Good idea!
Depending on the jurisdiction you’re in accusing someone of being a pedophile may not be a good idea. You should definitely talk to a lawyer though, preferably before you make any accusations.
No, absolutely terrible idea. That’s a lawsuit waiting to happen. He isn’t, from what you’ve said, a “known pedophile” because he hasn’t been charged and convicted of anything that would make him so.
Why hasn’t she gone to the police?
Because she’s in the US and this guy’s from Australia.
Does she know which Australian state? Likely every state has cyberstalking rules, but it would be a state law.
Call the police.
I highly doubt a random website will get any traction. Why doesn’t she just make her social media private? Why hasn’t she blocked this random dude
If the guy is dedicated enough, and he seems to be, it won’t work. He’ll find a way to gain access to the private account. He’ll make others accounts.
You can make a new, private account without saying who you are, but you lose people, it’s exhausting to be careful full time and it’s unfair.
She’s the victim here and shouldn’t need to do any of this.
Everyone regardless of victim status should use the tools available to protect their personal information online.
If someone is publishing your personal information without your consent, local laws and regulations may apply. You kinda have to be lucky with police and the legal system to take you seriously though.
No, no one should feel the need to make their socials private because someone is being an asshole.
This is like saying you dont need to look both ways before crossing the street when you have the crossing signal. Sure, you might be correct but that doesn’t protect you when you get hit by a car.
You need to practice making comparisons. No, that’s nowhere near the same thing.
Here’s a better one: -“Stop wearing short skirts if men are cat calling you”
Yeah, no.
Stop wearing short skirts if men are cat calling you
It’s reasonable advice, if you are sure that not wearing short skirts results in less cat-calling. The societal solution is to discourage cat-calling in whatever way. But if a particular individual doesn’t want to be cat called more than they want to wear short skirts, then the solution is obvious.
This is similar advice to “if someone is trying to mug you, just give them your wallet so you don’t get stabbed.” Certainly there should be a larger discussion about decreasing the amount of muggings - but for the particular individual in a particular circumstance, they should take the action that is in their immediate self interest.
No, it’s not. Please tell me you’re not a parent.
In a world where justice is guaranteed, you’d be right. But we’re not living in a fairy tale, and keeping all your data public is not bringing us closer to that utopia, so what’s the point?
I live in a country where all data is public. We’re good, thanks.
What the fuck does that even mean?
You want someone’s personal number (americans, think social security number) - call the tax authority and ask for it. While at it, ask how much their declared income is and where they live.
All public information. And our society is most definitely a fairy tale utopia compared to the US.
Agreed, not just because someone is being an asshole. Everyone should feel the need to protect their personal information, because the world is full of assholes of different levels and your personal information being publicly available can only cause harm to you. It really is as simple as setting your profile to “friends only” to counter the lowest level of assholes.
post anonymously?
There’s a solution to this.
First, you turn off all the lights in your bathroom and close the door. And then you say"Lindsay Logan" (NOT LOHAN. IF YOU SAY LINDSAY LOHAN SHE WILL COME OUT OF THE MIRROR AND MAKR YOU DRINK VODKA UNTIL YOU DIE) three times, at exactly 3:33 a.m. if you do it right a school bus will hit the person and they will die of school bus smash.
What’s the site?
