We are a women’s only community, so please no male comments.

Edit: thanks all for reporting the hostile remarks! You really are an amazing group of people. Really appreciate how positive so many men have been as well. I see you all and value you ❤️

  • ZDL@lazysoci.al
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    2 days ago

    At least my women coworkers in Ottawa were straight-up and in my face with their racism.

    BFH: talking about Chinese people You know that they just don’t value life like we do.

    Everybody Else: looks at me sitting at the same damned table

    BFH: Oh not you Dianne! We all know you’re one of the good ones.

    I’m better equipped to deal with that kind of naked aggression than I am at the kind that’s quiet and sullen when I’m around but that pipes up when I’m out of the room.

    • WhyIAughta@lemmy.world
      6·
      2 days ago

      Through the years I’ve been called some heinous things to my face in jest, back where I grew up minorities were few and far between. You learn to laugh it off and not be offended, but then it slowly shapes your view of your own identity, it taught me to be ashamed of who I was, including subconscious racism to my own people which I am still battling with. I realized that to white people I’ll always just be said minority, my friendship just a commodity, and to my own kind I’m too white to relate to, so now I just feel disconnected from everyone.

      • ZDL@lazysoci.al
        2·
        2 days ago

        I had to move half-way around the planet to get in touch with the half of my heritage that I’d drowned out (to the point of being a total banana) to even understand just how toxic it is to be a “visible minority” (and that term by itself now raises a huge number of red flags for me!) in Canada. So now I push back. Hard.

    • outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      2·
      1 day ago

      Speaking as the whitest bitch on the planet, and most generally compassionate person in my immediate family: i do not value ‘life’ literally at all, and i challenge anyone to give me a non-mystical explanation that’s valuable in itself, and not just ‘because it’s a thing i am and im really clutching at straws to feel special and important’.

      So now you can tell them that the most anti human life-devaluing bitch you ever met was white as fuck. And that i called you ‘unrefrigerated meat’.

      Edit: Malthus. Von misis. Schlafly. Kissenger. Everyone involved with developing the doctrine of MAD.