• Denjin@lemmings.world
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    2 days ago

    Stop talking to women as if you’re trying to get into their underwear. Speak to them like someone you want to be friends with and if there’s interest both ways something might happen and it might not happen and that’s OK because you made a friend.

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      I never said I was trying to get into their underwear or pick them up or take them home.

      It is not my goal, it is not my aim. I have never had a one night stand.

      It’s usually girls I know through other people, friends of friends that I have been around and developed some interest in. I often feel that I only have a small window or a single chance to make a good impression otherwise someone else may catch their attention.

      I was young, I was stupid and placed so much pressure on myself and end never ended well.

      I’m a lot more calm and comfortable now, but I don’t head to pubs or bars to meet people. Not my thing.

      Any interest I have now is the time I spend chatting to a match on a dating app and then meeting up in person.

      I really like meeting that person where the conversation just flows naturally, you look at the time and it’s been hours since you first met and didn’t even notice it.

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      2 days ago

      Dude has anxiety and you’re talking to him like he’s purposefully being a jerk. Not cool.

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        No I’m not, I’m talking to them like they’re so anxious because they’re trying to get laid rather than trying to get to know someone.

        As a former young man I have also been exactly where the commenter has been and when I stopped looking at women as something to conquer rather than a human being, things started happening for me.

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          So you’re making an assumption about him AND ignoring the anxiety issue. That’s totally cool, then. Everyone is just like you, ya know. Everyone.