Profile pic is from Jason Box, depicting a projection of Arctic warming to the year 2100 based on current trends.

  • 1 Post
  • 4.2K Comments
Joined 2 years ago
cake
Cake day: March 3rd, 2024

help-circle












  • Never meet your hero. There are some well known people out there that are great human beings, but just as many who are average or below, and being a celebrity won’t help a bad personality get better (usually).

    Not only for the reason to keep the illusion, but if I saw someone famous in public I wouldn’t be that annoying fan that helps push some to the edge. At best I’d just mention I liked their work (not even saying specifics) and let it be. Again, they are people, and I know I don’t like to be bothered with small talk from strangers.

    A side note that is a bit related to breaking the false image. When you figure out that your parents and other relatives are just people too, with their own greatness and flaws. It’s probably healthy in the long run, but the first shock can be nasty.

    I guess I should name someone. Tom Cruise is always the first in my mind. Some incredible work, but he’s both weird and given how embedded he is with Scientology, can’t be that great of a person to know well. But maybe not… he is peculiar though.

    I would love to meet the cast of Andor and Tony Gilroy, they seem amazing, intelligent, and down to earth. But going back to my point, at most all I’d be doing is telling them how great they were at their job, and hope that what they portray in interviews is who they really are.




  • Just be yourself. There must be something about her beyond being a girl that you find interesting. Don’t flirt, just be friendly, and if there’s a common bond it might go somewhere. Or not. But if you don’t do something and she doesn’t, then neither will know. This is coming from a heavy introvert who avoids people in general. It’s hard to get past that first step, but once you do (and you don’t force something to happen) it gets easier, and the relationship usually builds from the point where both are more relaxed and… being themselves.


  • Now you have. Granted it was online, but being the more introverted of the two, it was the only way it was going to happen.

    To be fair, had I not responded back and opened communication, it wouldn’t have happened either. A relationship has to be both ways. But someone has to start, and it doesn’t have to be the guy. Look at the repeated stories about the guys who realized long after the fact that the girl was flirting with them and they totally missed the cues.