Why there are many transfem/femboys associated with computer stuff? I’m genuinely curious.
My (maybe controversial) theory is that software engineering is a deeply creative and self-expressive field, more closely related to art and literature than to the “hard” sciences. But it has the clear upside that it isn’t stigmatized like Art & Literature, so getting into it isn’t met with the same amount of scrutiny & criticism, especially for people who present in a masculine way.
computer people don’t do sports --> muscle atrophy --> slim --> already looks more like a girl --> easy to transition
Neurodivergence
Neuroconvergance since it keeps occuring.
Not so divergent now, are ya???
my theory is that trans people are drawn to the internet and therefore, by chance, technology, because it’s easier to freely choose how to present and find a safe space
Someone should do a study into this, I’m genuinely curious why there’s such a huge association (me included :3)
Many get into computers when they are younger and before they realize they are girls, they continue doing it after they come out because they like it and/or it pays well.
Because it’s cool af
Both? I agree!
Because it’s awesome and cool, is there really a better reason? That’s the reason I’m into computer stuff, and also why I’m a femboy.
Sorry, I didn’t get it.
So no one is going to do the link to Unix socks?
Person below yours just did:
https://sh.itjust.works/comment/15095872Also it’s better to link it like [email protected] since it works for people on remote instances.
To be fair though, thigh highs are really nice to calm down restless leg, so sometimes they actually are pretty good for programming
Can’t believe you’d suggest that’s the only way thigh-highs would be good for programming, I’m insulted
They do also hook your brain up to the girl-matrix, allowing you to tap into the shared brainpower of all other thigh-high wearers for your programming. But that’s common knowledge, so I didn’t feel like I had to mention it
That explains it. I made it through the entire Eaternet, the bread board computer, 6502; all that. But pipelines and out of order instructions of the girl-matrix are just beyond my registers.
Yeah, sometimes it’s more trouble than it’s worth. The girls keep transpiling my perfectly fine Javascript code to Rust >:(
perfectly fine JavaScript code
L + Memory-Unsafe + literally JavaScript (do I need to say more)
i was forced to use java scrip the other day, i installed npm and it told me it had 8 vulnerabilities. it told me to put ‘npm audit fix’ to fix them. after that it said that it had 163 vulnerabilities now. again, this was a fresh install…
girl-matrix
That implies that thigh highs are girly, which doesn’t make sense since they’re just long comfy socks that go up to your thighs (as the name implies), anyone can wear them, doesn’t matter if they’re a girl, boy, or even
Also anyone can be feminine regardless of gender and the way you act or dress doesn’t invalidate that :3
(In addition clothes are just pieces of cloth, why the hell do we assign genders to them)
Exactly couldn’t agree more, and yeah cloths are just cloth, it’s really weird that we assign gender to them at all.
Fun fact: Spartan soldiers wore miniskirts, they’re still considered the “peak of masculinity”
Yeah, I mean it makes sense since they give good air flow to keep you cool than shorts would, actually it’s weird that more men in more modern cultures don’t wear skirts and skirt-like garments.
Personally I like them because they’re comfy and keep my feet and legs warm.
Do you mean restless leg as in when you’re trying to sleep and your legs are going haywire?
It’s a thing that sometimes happens for some people where they get sensations that are uncomfortable when keeping their legs still, I never experienced it myself but I’ve read about it.
Oh wow! This has happened to me but never thought to look it up. Thanks for the link!
Happy I could be of help.
Imagine having someone who also really enjoys computers and Linux and doesn’t judge you for presenting fem and also is snuggly couldn’t be me :3 anyone else in the state of utah? /hj
Very nice programming socks :3
Agreed, they are very nice.
S/he is beautiful🥰🥰
Shakespear rolling in his grave because even he used singular they…
I don’t get it , I’m French btw
Instead of “s/he is” you can say “they are”, even though it’s singular. “They” is the preferred pronoun for any situation where gender is unclear or (usually, but not always) for non binary people.
Oh sorry I brutaly translated this from French where we say" iel " (contraction of “Elle” and “il” our feminine and masculine pronoun). I already saw they but I didn’t thought about it.
It’s all good! The fact that you want to be inclusive is great. They have a contraction for nonbinary pronouns in french? that’s awesome.
Well, it’s a neopronoun, so while it’s popular enough for most people to understand what it means, in my experience “iel” sadly gets a lot of pushback (“oh but we don’t do that in French” etc.) which means it’s rarely used in contexts other than to refer to non-binary people who have expressed a preference for “iel”.
Yeah that sounds familiar
Plot twist: They’re a they/them user and you just misgendered them either way.
T/S/He/y
Hey
Howdy
Illi (
illi)
Removed by mod
Could you explain why you commented this in this specific comment chain?
Maybe they thought we were being “woke” or “sensitive” about pronouns?
Undoubtedly, but they could’ve said so instead of posting some completely unrelated video as a half-baked statement.
Yeah, agreed.
Yep was just a dumb joke like his.
Well it wasn’t funny, it came off as off topic at best and borderline queerphobic at worst, and queerphobia doesn’t fly here or on blahaj.zone at all really. My joke may have been bad or dumb to some people but it almost certainly didn’t come off as queerphobic.
I love them, they are so cute. I hope the other the people liked OOP’s outfit even though it was a mistake that they posted there.
Looks more functional than OOP to me
You slay girl!
no wait don’t go!
Would
Hmm, does clothing up as a girl really feel that good?
As someone who doesn’t get the gender feelies at all, dresses and sarongs are cool (as in, good for warm weather). High socks are so amazing that everyone wore them for much of the middle ages (they’re warm!). Called hosen wool socks and a tunic was ordinary commoner attire. (And yes, your nethers and janglies were free to the open air underneath. Laundry without machines was too labor intensive for non-nobles to have underwear.)
Makeup is weird, but looking amazing is fun. (My experience with it was on stage, and putting on eyeliner was hard to do without flinching.)
While I can appreciate a cool tool (say tweezers with a magnifying lens attached) tactical stuff painted black doesn’t make sense in contrast to stuff painted a bright color that can easily be seen (on the assumption that I’m not in combat hidden in cover), bright pink is fine except when everything else is also bright pink. (A lot of beach dayglo colors are meant to be well offset against the ocean greens and blues).
Now that’s on the practical side. Some folks get a HUGE buzz from representing according to their gender identity. Trans folk know this because wearing the stuff they like is [regarded by others as] weird in contrast to the stuff that mom bought them while they were growing up, so they’ve had cause to actually explore this aspect of themselves.
But there are guys who like to double down on butchness and gals who like getting ready for the night out more than the going out, itself. And then there are dudes who, no matter how masculine they represent, feel inadequate and wussy, which likely informs alpha male rhetoric and the far-right man-o-sphere pundits.
I’m the same way, I don’t get gender feels either 🖤🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤, and I would very much agree with most of this except the part about having contrasting colors. I do think that having bright colors in contrast with darker ones does look cool, even if it is less practical.
I’m also not really a big fan of makeup, it feels very weird. Maybe I’d be okay with it if I wanted/needed to look a certain way for some kind of performance or special event but otherwise I’d just rather keep my face clean.
Edit: Okay who downvoted this, someone upset that I’m unapologetically Agender? Well get used to it bitch I’m not sorry about who I am, and certainly not in LGBTQ friendly spaces.
I don’t see downvotes here on Blåhaj, but I’ll respond to rumors of them with LGBT+ memes.
Here it comes.
Lemmy.blahaj.zone has downvotes disabled but they’re still allowed for some reason in the remote versions of communities hosted on it, and on accounts non native to blahaj they still do federate to other instances. Maybe it would be worth suggesting a change to this to disallow downvotes in remote copies of communties hosted by instances which disable them.
Edit: Okay who downvoted this, someone upset that I’m unapologetically Agender?
Not the downvoter. If I had to guess, maybe they had strong feelings against
- presenting your personals before the point (as in off-topic/look at me)
- pushing the agender agenda
- emoji usage on Lemmy
- they just hate LGBTQA people, who knows
People will downvote and block nowadays rather than give feedback and discuss. Probably also an effect of information overdosing on the Internet.
Probably very likely the last one, I do know that downvoting people for being openly queer is unfortunately common. It was a big problem on Reddit. I once saw a person in r/SwitchPirates being downvoted because she was a trans girl who was openly trans.
Also I feel like the second one is the same as the last one since there really isn’t an Agender, NonBinary, Gay, or Trans agenda, that’s just queerphobes who want to make out Queer people to be some kind of bad guys to fight against, rather than people who just want to exist and be recognized.
Find out, try it.
Would definitely recommend it. Especially thigh highs, they are very comfy.
Personally I think so, especially thigh highs, they are very comfy. Oversize hoodies are also very nice as well.
Now see, I’m on board with anything that doesn’t hug my legs too tight like this. My leg hairs are so long that it bothers me were I to wear thigh highs.
Fair enough, I don’t have that issue but I could definitely understand why that would be a reason people would want to avoid something tight like thigh highs.
Yes I like them
no wait… I’am I N T E R E S T E D
Yes
