• Croquette@sh.itjust.works
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    6 days ago

    I planned my kids and still can’t wait to get some of my freedom back. Both can be true.

    No amount of babysitting or exposition can truly show you show how relentless having kids is. Timing and planning will help alleviate that. But you are still one flu away from two weeks of hell. And that’s when your kids are healthy.

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      6 days ago

      Absolutely right. I was living in a party house before I met my wife, and at that time I would’ve laughed at the idea I’d have kids. Fast forward three and a half years, and I’m married with a kid, and eventually two, and now they’re not babies anymore, or toddlers, and so while they can absolutely still be a burden, it also comes with an enormous amount of upside.

      I’ve always firmly believed that without winter there is no summer, and so nothing is always the ideal situatiion you’d like it to be. And so yeah, winter comes and my wife and I get that household anxiety that there will be a stomach bug, but it is what it is. We cancel plans, we’ve missed thanksgiving and Christmas, but we’ve also had amazing times that wouldn’t have been the same without them. The good and the bad, and the ugly, because I like spaghetti westerns even though my family thinks they’re boring.