So… I got my diver’s license as soon as I turned 18. It was a very stressful period of my life, and I hated everything about driving. They promised me freedom, but I got shackled.

Passing the exam as a nightmare (took me 3 attempts) and even during the lessons the professor saw how horribly tense I was. I got sick just by thinking about the car.

Once I passed, my family decided that I’d get over my fears by forcing me to drive, every single day, for weeks, with the whole family in the car, yelling, mocking me…

I had several panic attacks that were dismissed as lack of maturity, and I stopped driving. It’s been years.

But now I’m going to have to get better at this due to circumstances, and I’m scared.

I feel that I can’t focus on all the elements of the road, I have a very hard time calculating distances because I’m very short (edit: 1’50m, if that is relevant) and barely see above the wheel, I have to move the seat so close to the wheel that I fear that if one day the airbag jumps, I’ll suffocate. My blind spots seem infinite.

My car is automatic, so no stick to worry about.

If you have read all I wrote, I’ll greatly appreciate any advice or encouragement. Thank you

  • blarghly@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    Others have good advice. But my advice is literally to just go do it (without your family in the car). Pick a place to go and drive there, just on slow neighborhood streets if need be. Just racking up hours behind the wheel is gonna be 90% of the solution.

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      A good place to start would be an industrial area on the weekend when everything is closed. Get someone to drive you there, do some driving in a bit of safety, then get them to drive you back.

      Shopping centre carparks work too if the are closed.