SA mention
Back when I was 11, I was experimenting with gender and my 10-year-old girlfriend had learned about rape. Though I don’t put a lot of blame on her due to her age, she responded with “Ew, you don’t want to be raped that badly that you want to turn into a guy?”
I can get my thoughts out better in text, so back in june, I wrote a fucking novel for my family and my mom and siblings were super supportive, but my dad responded to my message I had spent 2 evenings writing editing and rewriting, then several more days agonizing about hitting send with “someone get a hold of your phone?” He has yet you use the proper pronouns or say my chosen name in my presence, and the only reaction that wasn’t a nonreaction I have gotten from him when I correct him was a dissmisive grunt. I have distanced myself from him, and when he asked about christmas plans, I finally laid into him and now he’s complaining I never came to talk to him about it, like he’s the victim. Did the same thing when my (cis)sister went no contact to protect her kids because he’s a narcissist dickwad.
I’m sorry he’s acting like that 😞 can’t stand when people feel like they can just ignore it and make it go away, and keep making you feel like it’s your fault when you raise the issue
Very first thing my mom said when my sis and I came out:
“what a waste of <my age> years of my life, I suppose we’ll just have to adopt replacement children”
Needless to say, my girlfriend got older and became pretty anti-trans/transition though IDK how she is now. She hated me for a while because I wasn’t one of the “cool kids”
Nothing particularly interesting, just stuff along the lines of that they knew I was ‘really’ a boy and would continue to refer to me as one, usually with some sort of biblical justification. Others were more chill and seemed to just pretend that I hadn’t said anything, a few others tried to be supportive but ended up still regularly misgendering me out of habit.
The time between me realizing I was trans to coming out was like, 3 weeks, and that was in june, so I still misgender myself almost as often as others, so if it’s an accident and not an obvious fuck you, I find it hard to get mad. Mental inertia is a hell of a thing
