• robocall@lemmy.worldEnglish
    431·
    2 days ago

    People have asked me how do I stay so thin, and when I tell them I starve myself, they get uncomfortable and tell me not to do that. Like why the fuck did you ask me and give me compliments?!

  • idiomaddict@lemmy.worldEnglish
    17·
    2 days ago

    I had a customer tell me once that he could always recognize me from behind because I’m so skinny. I didn’t have a comeback, because what the fuck, but I told him that was something I didn’t want to hear from him and then he got all offended. He told me it was rude, so I told him next time he could recognize which barista was rude.

    I will grant him this though, he did recognize me from behind at a different store, a couple towns over from my regular one. He recognized that he should wait for the other barista.

  • fartographer@lemmy.worldEnglish
    243·
    2 days ago

    I once walked by a mom and daughter at a public event that I was helping host. They had on the most incredible outfits, fierce makeup, amazingly messy yet intentional hairdos, and walked like they fucking owned the place. I told them that I loved their outfits and all the stylistic choices they made and was kinda obsessed with “all the choices y’all made putting this together.” The daughter told me that she liked my energy, and that was one of the greatest moments of my life.

    I could be in the middle of a terrible day, and then I’ll think, “that young lady told me that she liked my energy and I definitely trust their opinions.”

    No one wakes up and decides whether they’re going to be thin and -gags- perky for the day. But everyone makes a choice of some sort in their shoes, doing their nails, their hair dye, etc. If you can’t help but say something, invest a little interest in those things and compliment people on their choices. Sometimes, you’ll get way more out of the exchange than what you put in.

    Note: The last paragraph was not meant for anyone who already knows this. It was meant for the terminally confused regressive folks who say “you can’t even compliment women anymore without getting into trouble.”