Like my fight or flight meter skyrockets and I feel like I’m in danger.
I can hardly do any work if people around me argue at work. And they do a lot.
I get that but it’s likely due to my CPTSD from a lifetime of being screamed at.
Agree, being in an environment that is tense, angry or violent makes me unbelievably uneasy. No matter if I’m involved or not.
lifetime of being screamed at
Ayyyy, same, lol
That happens often, usually to people who have gone through a childhood full of arguing (not necessarily with them, might be the parents just fighting a lot).
I wouldn’t say it’s unnormal.
It’s a bit more severe, but I don’t know anybody that doesn’t feel uncomfortable when people are arguing near them. Some definitely mind more than others.
For me it depends on the type of yelling. If it looks like anyone might be in danger then I’m super activated, or if it’s an adult yelling at a kid then I’m very upset, but if it’s something like a boyfriend and girlfriend arguing about something juicy then I’m like oooo!
I’m usually annoyed, not uncomfortable.
it depends. you mention “intense fear” as opposed to being uncomfortable or uneasy or feeling slightly threatened. that would be the average response, i’d think. if you have a history of abuse or trauma, then your intense fear may be a disordered response.
I grew up in a house where my parents intentionally never raised their voices.
It’s made me unflappable in the face of shouting, but also resulted in years of misery as I learned a constructive way to handle raised voices outside of the safety of my home.
Coughing on the other hand… triggers my fight/flight every time.
I’m not sure i understand the cough thing, is it because that’s what they would do as their biggest sign of upsetness?
I know the feeling, a cough causes an instant panic for me.
Like my fight or flight meter skyrockets and I feel like I’m in danger.
You should feel afraid, it’s a normal reaction.
People yelling and getting into loud arguments in public with others around is a sure sign that they are socially unaware or ignorant and find it completely normal to raise their voice in argument with strangers and in public. It means their social norms involve not caring about making others uncomfortable and in not minding letting others see how dysfunctional their lives are.
I’m always afraid of people like this because if they don’t mind yelling or having loud arguments with those close to them while others are around … it often means that you can land in the line of fire at one point.
I don’t like people that yell and have loud arguments in public … I usually avoid them.
It could also mean that they’re feeling their emotions so strongly that they don’t care who sees or has to deal with it. That could go very badly.
Agree with CPTSD comment
That’s the whole point of raising your voice… Either learn to tell people to avoid doing it, learn to catch yourself doing it when angry, and teach your children to instead of raising their voice, to improve their argument.
I mean, sometimes you’re not even part of it and its still terrifying. Like say, some random drunk dude wanders onto your street yelling near your house for no reason.
Like say, some random drunk dude wanders onto your street yelling near your house for no reason.
I’m with you on this one. I get called weird often because I truly believe that someone yelling can escalate into me being murdered.
