No

Not even slightly.

Not at all

My partner and I have a rule that whoever picks the restaurant has to pay the check but we share the same bank account so I don’t know if that counts.

Definitely not if she made significantly more than I did

Nope

If someone likes me and wants to spend their time and money on me, that would not be an issue at all. They are doing that because they want to do those things for me.

I would feel guilty if they continually spent all that effort on me and I never gave anything in return. I would feel guilty because I am taking advantage of their generosity. I always make an effort to give back and it doesn’t always involve money.

I like to give back in simple ways. Like cleaning up for them. Listening to them. Treating them like they are an individual with the power to do things and make decisions for themselves. Doing things with them that they enjoy. Being there with them in the moment.

Love isn’t a money transaction. It’s something that has existed long before money became a thing that people created. It would continue to exist even if money disappeared all together tomorrow. It’s a feeling that varies greatly between each person and can’t always be described or defined.

I would like you to notice that I made no mention of women specifically in my comment because the other people that choose to spend time with you or myself shouldn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if they are male, female, or anything inbetween or out between that definition. They are simply people just like us.

Treat people like people and they will show you love and appreciation in their own way, be it buying you a meal or simply being there in the moment with you.

The key factor is if she was patronizing about it.

My wife and I just let whoever pay for things. Typically it’s whoever invited the other. But we can cover if the other person has paid for a lot recently.

Nope. Should she feel bad if the roles were reversed? A couple is two people working together to make a better life for each other than either could do alone. Don’t be a leech, do your best to make your spouse/SO happy, and expect to do things fairly. If one of you is more of the bread winner, then it’s not only fine but fair that the one making more pays for more things. Be happy they want to pay and more importantly pay for you. Make it up to them in less monetary ways.

Why do you think this way in the first place?

Only if she’s 28 and I’m 23, and I’m Superman.

This may be controversial but if she offers, then no but if need to go to her for help somewhat.

Like if my girlfriend was like “hey, let’s go to Vegas for the weekend and relax” I’m happy and would agree.

If it was me going to her "I don’t have enough money for my rent this month can I borrow $500"then I would likely feel bad.

But same would go for any friend, sexual/romantic or anything else wise.

no, get the fuck over it

I like to think I’m fine with that.

The reality is I always paid, but I also earned a lot more than she did. It would not be fair for her to pay much.

Or maybe I’m old fashioned, I don’t know. I’ve never been in the hypothetical situation

I don’t and nobody should unless she’s making big purchases and you’re planning to break up.