Do people actually care about height?
Yes. Your height is a huge factor in your social appeal and status.
Taller people are considered more attractive, get paid more, and generally have positive biases associated with them. Short people have negative ones.
it’s further biased when it comes to female to male selection. men don’t care so much about women’s height, but women care very much about dating a larger, physically stronger, partner.
Some do (prefers tall), some do (prefers short), some don’t care either way, which is the case for pretty much any trait. Even serial killers get fanmail from people who get horny from that kind of thing.
Though the distribution isn’t neutral (as in the average pop might prefer it one way over the other).
It’s worth considering that we might not have a choice in the matter, at least as far as the subconscious is concerned.
Yes, especially among more shallow groups…
Although you’re not allowed to talk about it, it may even be a biologically sought trait. One of those animal things we act like we evolved past.
(In before a thousand comments about this one guy being shorter disproving… Oh wait)
I interpreted those as tears of pure joy and I refuse to believe any other interpretation.
I fail to see the problem.
Wear high heels
6’6’’ and I only ever get like 1 girl to even talk to me on an app to every 10 dudes that actually meet me.
I know the solution…get off 4 chan
It’s hard to find a community that agrees with you when you say that you are a loser.
Much easier to not be a loser when not on 4chan
If this bunny can date a girl bunny four times its size, you can date a woman a few centimeters taller.
If male angler fish can find mates, short men can date tall women.
That’s hot
I don’t get these guys. My wife is a couple inches taller than me and it… just doesn’t matter? If anything it puts my face closer to the boobies, so what’s the problem?
Guys are being spoonfed by the monosphere the narrative that if they’re 1cm too short or 1kg too heavy, women immediately despise them.
It keeps them trapped in a self fulfilling cycle of despair and watching mysoginist grifter content online.
I mean, that’s actually what happens though. Two weeks ago my wife and I were setting up two friends of ours on a blind date, and literally her first question was “how tall is he?” She of course got pissy when I asked what I should tell him if he asked about her weight.
The manosphere is only able to capitalize on this rhetoric because it’s largely based in truth. Hashtag not all women, but enough of them for practically every guy under six feet to have a rejection story for being too short.
To act like stuff like this isn’t happening to guys daily is being willfully ignorant, and not working to change this culture is only going to drive more men to the horrible people who at least acknowledge that their problems are real.
something like 80% of single women are looking for a man who is taller, rich, and pays for all her dates like it’s the 1950s.
And only 50% of single men want that kind of relationship. So there is a huge gap. Men are actaully more progressive/feminist when it comes to dating than most women are.
Of course some women dismiss men who are shorter than them, there are also men who dismiss women because their tits are too small or too big or a myriad other reasons.
The manosphere manipulates that and has used it to warp the minds and self worth of an entire generation slightly ugly or slightly short guys who are all perfectly capable of finding a partner and having deeply meaningful relationships with others.
Good luck “changing the culture” though, whatever that means.
I am just going to say that many trash can shaped women have some partner. Not getting rejected for the shape of boobs.
The so called “ugliest man alive” Godfrey Baguma is happily married so what’s your point?
I don’t get why height specifically anyway?
I honestly don’t either - it’s probably just as arbitrary and socialized as boob size preferences. Maybe someone here with a background in sociology or anthropology can shed some light?
I do wonder. It seems really important to women. Probably the whole stereotype of what a man should be, and a man being small ruins it for them instantly.
I asked what I should tell him if he asked about her weight.
it’s largely based in truth
How do I keep forgetting Lemmy is just 4chan filtered through Reddit.
Hey, I get it. It’s much harder to acknowledge the harmful biases you’re showing in this comment and be a force for positive change than it is to just reflexively lash out at the messenger.
Until that happens though, the problem will remain, and you’ll remain a part of it.
It’s much harder to acknowledge the harmful biases you’re showing in this comment and be a force for positive change
You really don’t see it, huh?
I’m certain you don’t.
cant figure out if Annon has too much Tormund energy or not enough
Bro if I could only find a woman who’s like >2m…
I would love to be the little spoon for once :(
You can be the little spoon even when you are much taller than your partner ;)
I’m not sure it’s really spooning if she can’t bend at the hips because the end of my back is far below them and basically at the height of her knees. Not sure having to lay down completely straight is a comfortable position lol
I suppose a short girl could spoon me traditionally if she wants to be facing my lower back but that’s not really what I want either
It’s called jetpacking
What I do it put my knees fully into their knees and wrap my torso around their butt, arms around their waist/low chest. I only reach half way up their back (I’m smol) but they love having my head rest against the middle of their back.
But I want a very tall person to cuddle with me so that I can feel smol :(
When I spoon my partner, we match hips and my face is somewhere between their shoulder blades
Okay I can’t say I wouldn’t like but I guess I really just wish someone much larger than me would cuddle with me so that I could feel small I guess or like protected? Idk it’s hard to explain
Let me guess, you are also like 2.1m?
Thankfully I’m slightly shorter than that, but not by enough that there are many women as tall or taller than me. I think the z-score of a girl in America being as tall as me is like 3.9, so only approximately 0.004% of women are as tall or taller than me.
If you’re over 2.1m you have my sympathies
I’m 1.63m
Danny DeVito has a wife
He is also well known around the world
Show me you fail at statistics.
But she’s about the same height as him, and calls him “The Barnacle” due to his penis::body ratio.
Yeah but Danny DeVito is charisma incarnate
Part of him being charisma incarnate is having exactly zero fucks to give about how his appearance differs from conventional attractiveness.
Part of the incel anticharisma comes from obsessing over how some facet of your appearance means never getting laid.
Turns out just being chill about shit is sexy AF.
It doesn’t hurt that he also has a magnum dong.
My gf is shorter than me by a a few centimeters(maybe like an inch for you americans) but she wears heels so she seems taller and thats a postitive if you ask me.
They were talking about women not liking short guys, not them not liking tall women.
I mean I actually got a date. So I can’t be that ugly.
But I am almost definitely pretty damn autistic.
Hey I am ugly and autistic, and still have been in a long-term relationship for years. Some people just are into it
I was married for 12 years.
I made a mistake with that, so yeah. Kinda fucked myself over with it. Didnt actually start learning Bout the 'tism part until recently
get a haircut and grow some tits
Or when you like men who are the same height or shorter than you … but are quite short yourself. I assume many tall heterosexual women aren’t happy with their height, either.
Either way it doesn’t matter if you literally never go out to meet people.
