• Denjin@feddit.uk
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    Guys are being spoonfed by the monosphere the narrative that if they’re 1cm too short or 1kg too heavy, women immediately despise them.

    It keeps them trapped in a self fulfilling cycle of despair and watching mysoginist grifter content online.

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      I mean, that’s actually what happens though. Two weeks ago my wife and I were setting up two friends of ours on a blind date, and literally her first question was “how tall is he?” She of course got pissy when I asked what I should tell him if he asked about her weight.

      The manosphere is only able to capitalize on this rhetoric because it’s largely based in truth. Hashtag not all women, but enough of them for practically every guy under six feet to have a rejection story for being too short.

      To act like stuff like this isn’t happening to guys daily is being willfully ignorant, and not working to change this culture is only going to drive more men to the horrible people who at least acknowledge that their problems are real.

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        something like 80% of single women are looking for a man who is taller, rich, and pays for all her dates like it’s the 1950s.

        And only 50% of single men want that kind of relationship. So there is a huge gap. Men are actaully more progressive/feminist when it comes to dating than most women are.

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        Of course some women dismiss men who are shorter than them, there are also men who dismiss women because their tits are too small or too big or a myriad other reasons.

        The manosphere manipulates that and has used it to warp the minds and self worth of an entire generation slightly ugly or slightly short guys who are all perfectly capable of finding a partner and having deeply meaningful relationships with others.

        Good luck “changing the culture” though, whatever that means.

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          I am just going to say that many trash can shaped women have some partner. Not getting rejected for the shape of boobs.

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            9 hours ago

            Godfrey Baguma and his wife

            The so called “ugliest man alive” Godfrey Baguma is happily married so what’s your point?

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          I honestly don’t either - it’s probably just as arbitrary and socialized as boob size preferences. Maybe someone here with a background in sociology or anthropology can shed some light?

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            I do wonder. It seems really important to women. Probably the whole stereotype of what a man should be, and a man being small ruins it for them instantly.

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        I asked what I should tell him if he asked about her weight.

        it’s largely based in truth

        How do I keep forgetting Lemmy is just 4chan filtered through Reddit.

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          Hey, I get it. It’s much harder to acknowledge the harmful biases you’re showing in this comment and be a force for positive change than it is to just reflexively lash out at the messenger.

          Until that happens though, the problem will remain, and you’ll remain a part of it.