• ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    6 hours ago

    Tbh it was less of an issue for me myself until the dating sites, back when it was acceptable to politely approach women in public places it was easier to get them to see you as a human and while you may not be their ideal height,

    A) It’s harder to screen for 6’ irl because they don’t carry measuring tapes

    B) They’re more likely to look past your shortcomings (pun so very intended) because they can see your personality or whatever.

    But now it’s just a meat market list of demographics for them to make their decision on, no real personality, no connection, nigh impossible to jump the gap and have her go slightly outside of her height expectations of “tallest 14% of men only” simply because it also says you have blue eyes and like hiking or whatever else it lists.

    My problem isn’t women, it isn’t even being short, my problem is the commercialization of human connection and interaction and society’s acceptance of it, the fact that you’re basically forced to pay for a spyware app that treats you like shit or die alone, your pick. It would go a long way towards alleviating our current loneliness epidemic (it ain’t just men, so not “male loneliness epidemic”) if it were societally acceptable for people to approach others in public spaces and respectfully shoot their shot. Even a “good” dating app would still be an app that can’t truly portray a human outside of statistics and a few pictures.

    Lucky you if you didn’t see any of that years ago, but I promise I’m not just making it up out of thin air lol.