I don’t need advice, I would appreciate if you just listened or provided your opinion but not telling me what to do or how to think, please.
I don’t wanna focus too hard on labels or what others think, but I still do wonder for not just me, but for people like me.
I already know stuff like to break the bad habit of reducing myself to a label, which I am trying to do.
That’s why, although there are many things that apply to me, like “autistic”, “trans”, “demiboy”, etc. I will not go around saying these words to describe me all the time.
But anyway, I ranted about this yesterday and thought people wouldn’t respond well for some reason, but the first thing I saw when I searched up “demiboy” was a person asking what a demiboy is.
The comments were full of people saying stuff like demiboys who are “assigned female at birth” are tomboys or just women who want to feel special.
I just wonder why people don’t realize that trans men and nonbinary and anything in between is a valid, real thing and not just people who want to feel special.
There is also something I saw calling a gay trans man “hetero” on TikTok, when a gay trans man and a hetero woman are definitely different, as are lesbians and straight trans men, etc.
And people who are non-binary are valid, real, and genuinely don’t want to feel special, but just don’t feel strictly like male or female.
You can put your experiences in the comments, by the way.
It’s so frustrating when your own experiences are belittled and labelled as “wanting to feel special.”
For me, finding and claiming a label is me pursuing the feeling of belonging and feeling normal, not trying to stand out.
Sorry people are so shitty.
Those types of people who say those things are very self-centered. An anecdote but back when I had no boundaries, there was this “friend” who liked to misgender me, and had unsavory opinions on trans people in general including that one, and when I wasn’t able to interact with them for an extended period of time due to my high workload in school, they took it personally even though they also made no effort of contacting me. Talk about wanting to feel special.