If some women then abuse that need to try to freeride, it’s another discussion,
No, it’s not “another discussion,” it’s the very discussion that OP wanted to have when he wrote his post.
Everybody wants to talk about women looking for “Red Flags,” and I don’t blame that at all for doing that, but men have just as much right to look for Red Flags as well. They may not be the same Red Flags, women obviously have more safety concerns (justifiably), but men have to watch out for women whose only interest in dating them is to financially exploit them, which is a far more common occurrence than a sexual assault.
We all have the right to refuse to be exploited. She can insist on bringing a chaperone, but he shouldn’t be expected to pay for her, and if that’s a deal-breaker, than it becomes pretty clear that they were only interested in taking advantage of him.
No, it’s not “another discussion,” it’s the very discussion that OP wanted to have when he wrote his post.
Everybody wants to talk about women looking for “Red Flags,” and I don’t blame that at all for doing that, but men have just as much right to look for Red Flags as well. They may not be the same Red Flags, women obviously have more safety concerns (justifiably), but men have to watch out for women whose only interest in dating them is to financially exploit them, which is a far more common occurrence than a sexual assault.
We all have the right to refuse to be exploited. She can insist on bringing a chaperone, but he shouldn’t be expected to pay for her, and if that’s a deal-breaker, than it becomes pretty clear that they were only interested in taking advantage of him.