• SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      It’s true. They think we’re boring, we think they’re boring. I remember dating a definitely NT person and was baffled that they never wanted to do deep dives on any topics with me.

      Who wouldn’t want to spend all weekend with their partner learning about the history of weaving and how various textile related machinery works, then cap it off by marathon playing Loom in robes?! Weirdos.

      • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
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        my NT ex said that me talking about my interest is abuse, yet she has no trouble abusing me till suicide.

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          Idk if I’m ND or not because I can’t just info dump for 30 min. I’m just a boring guy that has a lot of interests but not enough knowledge in one specific subject about anything, I need some back and forth to keep conversation alive.

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          If I may be blunt, I don’t think that’s because your ex is NT. It sounds like your ex is just an abusive asshole. I’m sorry you had to deal with their abuse.

          • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
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            honestly, I’m sorry for traumadumping, took some gummies and I’m not really me.

            from now on I’ll aim to date neurodiverse people instead, we are more fun anyways.

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              aim to date neurodiverse people instead, we are more fun anyways.

              I can offer little better advice. Similarly, find someone whose baggage complements yours, so you can have a matching set.

            • SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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              No apology necessary, I didn’t even think of it as trauma dumping. Sometimes things just come up and I think that’s okay.

              Enjoy your gummies!

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          This is why I can’t date people who talk too much. They go on a 20 minute monologue and after I try several times to add input, and then they keep going, I get frustrated that I couldn’t say anything, and now the topic is changing so I’ll come off looking like I wasn’t listening to the whole thing so now I’m falling behind on what they’re talking, I catch up and find something relevant to say if they ever stop talking, but they don’t, so I lose interest and start thinking about something else. But after my train of thought hits a few stops and they’re still fucking talking and then I’m internally screaming at them to SHUT THE FUCK UP! And I Invision either my sudden brutal death or theirs.

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    Their loss. Nothing sexier than someone being passionate about their interests. I’ll listen to someone tell me about their collection of severed heads if they’ve got passion for it

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    Too specific. Needed at least a quick refresher on all ocean life first. Gotta let them get warmed up before you hit them with the good stuff.

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    Once you hit’em with the “coelacanth is closer related to us than gold fish” gambit, which leads to the “what is fish” manoeuvre, and finish them with a “whales are fish and birds are reptiles” pincer attack, they’re as good as gone.

    Wait.

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    Next time tip the scales in your favor with a more positive approach. Little less coelaCAN’Th, little more coelacCANth.

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    Me: Rambling about some esoteric topic that has no practical application to any part of my life.

    My Wife: Listening intently even though she has no clue what I’m talking about.

    I usually realize how long I’ve been going on when she starts smiling because she “thinks it’s cute.”

    I don’t often feel like I’ve won the jackpot, but I sure did with this lady.

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    So she’s knowledgeable and passionate about something and can hold a conversation instead of making the other person do all the work?

    And he ghosted her???

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      Was it a conversation or a knowledge dump without a lot of interaction?

      I like the other person to show a little bit of interest in me, but that’s just me. I could be wrong.

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        Hey if the dude never contributed to the conversation, that’s on him. You gotta ask the nerd questions so you can get MORE information

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          sometimes you just want to enjoy the film, without all the needless marvel backstory to “enhance” it

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            As long as it’s about something cool, and not about what people I don’t know are doing, I’m good. I dgaf what some random person does, or anything about their life. Give me weird nature facts.

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      Exactly my thoughts. Not just knowing a lot about something but also being willing to talk about it. So many people with actual interesting shit to say keep it to themselves until several interactions in. Like Yeats said
      “The best lack all conviction, while the worst
      Are full of passionate intensity.”

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        She. Her name is Casey Zinkiezich. Shes the OP, she goes by She/Her as indicated by her social media.

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    I would love to meet someone who had so much enthusiasm for a topic that they want to teach me about it. I may not always understand, but I would listen to her all night long.