The purpose of explaining rules is to give kids the ability to choose to behave intelligently, IMO. If they think rules are arbitrary, which is the impression given by “because I said so”, they have no tools to use to make good decisions. Ideally, the explanation happens before things go wrong, to minimize how many times that happens.
Fully agreed on that. It generally only comes out when explaining the rule, in the moment, will either cause compounding issues, or is unfeasible. I’ve also used it once or twice, while running near my own mental limits.
The purpose of explaining rules is to give kids the ability to choose to behave intelligently, IMO. If they think rules are arbitrary, which is the impression given by “because I said so”, they have no tools to use to make good decisions. Ideally, the explanation happens before things go wrong, to minimize how many times that happens.
Fully agreed on that. It generally only comes out when explaining the rule, in the moment, will either cause compounding issues, or is unfeasible. I’ve also used it once or twice, while running near my own mental limits.