Hey all! A male supporter has offered to open a community called WomensStuffSupporters that all genders can reply to. That gives men somewhere to show support that isn’t here and also make here easier to moderate.

There’s the option to X post from one to another, which is wouldn’t want to happen automatically as some people wouldn’t like that.

What do you all think of the idea? I’ll leave this post up for a while before a decision is made.

Edit: you can message me if you don’t want to say publicly. I won’t let people know you contacted me, I’d just potentially say someone messaged saying they did/didn’t want it

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    I honestly don’t see the point. I doubt it would filter out anything because the men who post here either are unable to read so they wouldn’t know about the other community or they do it just to troll and those would still just post.

    The idea to me personally just feels like giving in to those that endlessly complain about one community out of hundreds where they are not welcome. Why would you have to meet them on the middle ground when there is nothing to gain from it. Just so some fragile egos might possibly be a little less hurt?

    Honestly I just feel like not interacting with the lemmy anymore at all because the 90% of the site just feels like a cesspool to me.

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      Honestly I just feel like not interacting with the lemmy anymore at all because the 90% of the site just feels like a cesspool to me.

      I’ve been feeling that way sometimes, too. I know some other women who left Lemmy because it was toxic.

      tbh, I’ve increased the time I spend in my subscribed communities, and less time in All - that helps when I’m feeling burnt out or unwelcome on Lemmy (esp. when misogyny is in the forefront, like everyone celebrating Tea users being doxxed as justice served).

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          Tea is an app that women use to look up men they are considering going on a date with, allowing them to find out if he is a registered sex offender or has a record as a domestic abuser, but also allows women to rate men they have dated as safe or dangerous and leave comments (making it like Rate My Professor or Yelp, but for dating men).

          Someone on 4chan found out that the app’s database was completely open to the public, and because the app requires women to upload legal ID to prove they are women before they can use the app, all the app’s users’ IDs were leaked and the users then doxxed.

          It’s been in the news:

          https://apnews.com/article/tea-app-data-breach-leak-4chan-c95d5bb2cabe9d1b8ec0ca8903503b29

          and many Lemmy users have been delighting in the “irony” that the women who use the app are now getting doxxed. I think the common view is that the women are gossiping and violating men’s privacy, so they deserve to be doxxed on 4chan.

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              17 hours ago

              that’s a good point, never considered that - was mostly just horrified that so many men who claim to be leftists and progressives are so misogynistic, siding with 4chan trolls targeting women …

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                I genuinely do not trust “feminist” men. Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too many experiences to the contrary. Whether it was men taking over women’s groups (not even maliciously, just men being men and assuming their voice is so important they have to be heard … ringing any bells in the mod team here?), or making it clear that they’re really just there as a breeding strategy (“sensitive guys” get laid in feminist circles), etc.

                Are there genuine feminist men? Yes. Are there even some who respect women enough to let women speak? Sure! But there’s enough of those who aren’t that I have to keep alert. Which makes “women’s spaces” that have men in them not that different from a plain old office spaces in terms of keeping a guard up.

                Joss Whedon was considered a “feminist”, just to be clear how bad it gets.

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            Oh.

            This is why I’ll never use any app that requires my real life information.

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      I just unsubscribed from a bunch of communities because I felt like the discussion was uninformed and/or biased in an unmerited way (even if not woman-specific) - and creating an echo chamber of unhelpful. I’m glad I wasn’t the only one feeling like Lemmy was a bit of a cesspool.

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      I’d advice to take the time to curate your experience. Block communities and users you don’t care to see, contibute to communities you care about. It has worked great for me.

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        Yeah. The only way I can live with any social media is “block early, block often”.