Hey all! A male supporter has offered to open a community called WomensStuffSupporters that all genders can reply to. That gives men somewhere to show support that isn’t here and also make here easier to moderate.
There’s the option to X post from one to another, which is wouldn’t want to happen automatically as some people wouldn’t like that.
What do you all think of the idea? I’ll leave this post up for a while before a decision is made.
Edit: you can message me if you don’t want to say publicly. I won’t let people know you contacted me, I’d just potentially say someone messaged saying they did/didn’t want it
to be fair it’s a women-only community that allows non-binary folks and trans men to decide whether they feel they belong in such community - this is not the same thing as saying it’s a women + trans men + non-binary (just no cis men) community.
This approach is because non-binary people and trans men often have a past and present experience as being treated as women in the world and connections to womanhood that cis men won’t have, e.g. trans men who start with butch lesbian identities and who are not sure yet about their relationship to being a woman. For a sense of what I’m talking about I suggest reading Stone Butch Blues.
Trans people are a minority to begin with (including here), and not gatekeeping trans identities ourselves and allowing trans people to decide for themselves whether they belong in a women-only community feels like the right approach given the alternatives. Respecting self-identity is part of what it means to be trans-inclusive.
Excellent point, thank you for fleshing that out.