• boonhet@sopuli.xyz
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    23 hours ago

    Y’all out here being handsome oblivious motherfuckers women hit on, meanwhile I’m just ugly.

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      21 hours ago

      It’s all relative man. Sure you might be ugly on a scale of 1-10 but a subset of that scale like 1-3 you might be still be ugly but if you expand the scale, say from -3-1 you the too dog man! Just find yourself a -3 and she’ll want to watch movies on a laptop on your bed, just make sure you reinforce the bed frame.

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        18 hours ago

        Lol great advice. I did actually reinforce my bed frame. Not because of the weight of my partners so much as the uh… force in play sometimes.

        My main problem when I’m single is that I get very few matches on the apps, and I’m shy about approaching women in person unless they make the first move. Once I’m actually talking to someone, the chances are pretty decent and not just with “-3s”. Same thing with job interviews. As soon as I’m in person, I’ll talk pretty much anyone into hiring me - but getting to that point is difficult. Actually the job interview success rate is even better, it’s like 80-90%.

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          16 hours ago

          I feel you there. As far as dating apps go. In my experience, vet your photos. Photos I thought were good were bad and I used photofeeler to find my best pictures to use. Get some friends to help you with capturing some good pics and writing a good short profile.

          I am a decent looking guy but wouldn’t say I’m hot, and had pretty decent amount of matches and dates. Swipe yes less, be picky and don’t just swipe right on every hot girl make sure there is at least something about them you think you would match vibes on. Keep chats brief and ask for a casual date early on and within a few days. Go on bad dates, it builds confidence.