Honestly that’s a better deal. If I could just skip infancy and early childhood to parenting young adults, that would be ideal.
I just don’t manage my autism well enough for constant yelling and stickiness (I struggled with the phrasing on this, but I’m very sure about what I settled on- my symptoms are not so severe that I am inherently incapable of parenthood, but it would take enough out of me that I would turn into sally field in Mrs. Doubtfire). Being able to spoil them, and knowing that there’s a handover coming and they’re going home would make it a lot easier.
Of course, grandparents end up as primary caregivers not infrequently and there’s no guarantee that it’ll stay a more removed relationship
That’s why I love being an auntie, but don’t want kids of my own. I love hanging around with the kids, but that’s only because I know I can send them back to their parents when I’m tired of them. The responsibility of looking after budgies by myself for almost 15 years (more if you count the childhood family pets) was enough. As much as I miss having birds, I’m ready to retire from any caregiving commitments.
Honestly that’s a better deal. If I could just skip infancy and early childhood to parenting young adults, that would be ideal.
I just don’t manage my autism well enough for constant yelling and stickiness (I struggled with the phrasing on this, but I’m very sure about what I settled on- my symptoms are not so severe that I am inherently incapable of parenthood, but it would take enough out of me that I would turn into sally field in Mrs. Doubtfire). Being able to spoil them, and knowing that there’s a handover coming and they’re going home would make it a lot easier.
Of course, grandparents end up as primary caregivers not infrequently and there’s no guarantee that it’ll stay a more removed relationship
That’s why I love being an auntie, but don’t want kids of my own. I love hanging around with the kids, but that’s only because I know I can send them back to their parents when I’m tired of them. The responsibility of looking after budgies by myself for almost 15 years (more if you count the childhood family pets) was enough. As much as I miss having birds, I’m ready to retire from any caregiving commitments.