• ThunderComplex@lemmy.today
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    3 days ago

    Ok this looks like a good place to share. Recently at work I got asked by several people if I already had kids or was married when I told them I was 30 and the first time I got asked I was so startled by the question I just replied that I was too young and this guy just says naw I’m 28 married and have a child.

    And the other times I also got really nervous but managed to quickly change the topic.

    All this time I’m thinking "bruuh why are you asking me if I’m married I haven’t even had my first kiss” and I realized later that 30 is in fact not too young even tho I definitely feel too young inside.

    • Schal330@lemmy.world
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      3 days ago

      In my social circle in the UK everyone got married in their 30’s and started having kids mid to late 30’s. It’s not a race to get married, but the biological clock is there for having kids.

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      3 days ago

      Different people have different lives. My ex was a married mother at 17, I was married with no chance of children at 27, my brother in law is pushing his luck with how old his wife and him will be when they’re ready to have kids. Sure my ex was too young, but I’ve known a 21 year old pregnant with her second that honestly seemed ready, though her husband could pick up some slack from how she told it.

    • apprehensively_human@lemmy.ca
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      3 days ago

      As a 30yo unmarried asexual introvert, I also get totally thrown off when people ask if I’m married or have kids.

      A few weeks ago somebody straight up asked me what my wife does for work and I had to process that for a second before I could even think of a response.