It’s nice you found a way to have your smart home working with open source solutions.
Sorry for having to bring this up, but I really wish you didn’t have to include the ‘wife stupid with tech’ trope in your post and that awful phrase ‘the wife’ that seems to be so popular with some guys these days. It seems so disrespectful to talk in this way about the person you share your life with.
Around here most folks don’t seem to imply their partners are not good with tech, just that they aren’t excited about a reduced reliability of their home. Maybe this is more of a trope in other online spades. This commenter seems to respect that most people expect the basic functions of their house to work reliably.
“family acceptance factor”
“spouse acceptance factor”
“I will consider how others feel and how I might affect them”
I think it’s important to be careful around how you refer to your partner, especially if they are of a marginalized group. I just don’t think this commenter was being disrespectful.
It’s our normal language for referencing each other. “The wife”, “the husband”. I’m sorry if it offended you.
As for the WAF comment, it doesn’t mean she can’t fix it, just that she has no interest in the nitty gritty of how it works. This seems to be a common occurrence with smart homes. It’s FAR more likely the male partner is interested in building it. The female partner tends to only care that it works. (And that their partner is enjoying themselves).
So far this gender stereotype holds up strongly (90%+)
It’s nice you found a way to have your smart home working with open source solutions.
Sorry for having to bring this up, but I really wish you didn’t have to include the ‘wife stupid with tech’ trope in your post and that awful phrase ‘the wife’ that seems to be so popular with some guys these days. It seems so disrespectful to talk in this way about the person you share your life with.
Around here most folks don’t seem to imply their partners are not good with tech, just that they aren’t excited about a reduced reliability of their home. Maybe this is more of a trope in other online spades. This commenter seems to respect that most people expect the basic functions of their house to work reliably.
“family acceptance factor” “spouse acceptance factor” “I will consider how others feel and how I might affect them”
I think it’s important to be careful around how you refer to your partner, especially if they are of a marginalized group. I just don’t think this commenter was being disrespectful.
Yeah that’s how I read it too.
It’s our normal language for referencing each other. “The wife”, “the husband”. I’m sorry if it offended you.
As for the WAF comment, it doesn’t mean she can’t fix it, just that she has no interest in the nitty gritty of how it works. This seems to be a common occurrence with smart homes. It’s FAR more likely the male partner is interested in building it. The female partner tends to only care that it works. (And that their partner is enjoying themselves).
So far this gender stereotype holds up strongly (90%+)