• WIZARD POPE💫@lemmy.world
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        1 day ago

        I have been with my gf for 6 years and not once have I gotten any so… I would take a bad one over none. She does not even seem to enjoy me going down on her sadly. So no oral sex in this relationship.

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          1 day ago

          If she’s not ace, maybe she should ask her Dr about hormone imbalances.

          Women who don’t get enough testosterone can have low libido.

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            She could be ace. She was on hormonal birth control for like 1.5 years without any real change. Would hormonal imbalance show a different way as well? I don’t want to just tell her to go get that checked because she has low libido.

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              22 hours ago

              Hormonal imbalances can worsen the symptoms of depression.

              But maybe talk and see if she has a desire to be more intimate but just isn’t ever in the mood, or if she doesn’t have a desire to be more intimate. Because if the desire isn’t there, that could be a different thing like maybe being ace.

              My wife found she was low on T because she didn’t like never feeling horny and asked her Dr. Her depression has improved since she started hormone supplements too.