• schmorp@slrpnk.net
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    Fucked my way through Europe in my 20s. Quality: overwhelmingly bad. Regrets: none, how would I have found out otherwise?

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    I’m a guy, sorry if I shouldn’t comment here, but I just have to say I disappointed quite a lot of ladies.

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    Number? No. Quality? Yes, sometimes.

    In my youth I slept around a lot. Had some great experiences, and of course some not-so-great ones. Each of the latter, however, contributed toward improving the next batch as red flags and such got noted.

    I’m not even slightly embarrassed at the quantity, however. That quantity is what led me, in the end, to finding a person I’ve spent twenty-odd years of my life with.

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    No sexual partners, no regrets. I think it’s cause I’m ace and sex repulsed.

    Body count of one. Spur of the moment thing. Couldn’t have him walking around spouting testimony.

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    this is kind of funny but I spent decades building up my ‘spank bank’ of delightful sexual encounters and then i transitioned and now 99% of it is worthless 😂😭

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    Everyone with more than 1 sexual partner has regrets (bad match, poor decision, etc) and even the people who only have had 1 sexual partner have regrets (wishing that they explored more, found better, etc).

    So there is no winning, only acceptance of who you are, what you choose to do and the refusal to let others to fit us into neat little boxes.

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      I disagree everyone with more than 1 sex partner has regrets.

      I actually have zero regrets from sleeping with anyone. I regret giving one man my phone number. But I don’t regret any of my casual encounters.

      Happily married now with a family. Still no regrets.

    • erin@piefed.blahaj.zone
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      I have way more than one sexual partner and I don’t have any regrets, not of the choice of partners or the sex. My regrets are from relationships that didn’t pan out.

    • Mossy Feathers (She/Her)@pawb.social
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      Hi, I’ve only had one sexual partner. Very much regretted it after she decided she was too horny to care about consent one night. Wish that wasn’t my only sexual experience, but it is what it is.

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    It’s mixed. I remember getting a blowjob from this one chick in college. I was in a dry spell, and she was eager to please. She was definitely not the most attractive women I am ever met, but she made up for it just in the enthusiasm. I came…but she kept going…my god she was a fucking champ. I still remember that one.

    There was another time with a different girl, post-nut clarity kicked in with the vengeance and I pretty much threw my clothes on and ran out the door. Fuck the walk of shame, that was the sprint of regret.

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    Regret that I spent most of my life unable or unwilling to make close connections with people, sexually or otherwise. Missed out on a lot before I sorted myself out.

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    I regret not ending some relationships sooner, but I don’t regret the body count. I learned something about myself each time. I’m here now because of my choices before. And yeah maybe I didn’t make the best choices when I was younger, but that’s just a universal truth.

  • Of the Air (cele/celes)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    We more regret that there was a lot of nonconsensual stuff happening and it was often in both directions, and also in ourselves (we haven’t always treated ourselves consensually). We are a lot more careful whom we choose to do intimate things with nowadays and discuss everything first and stick to it and treat ourselves consensually too.