WOMEN ONLY COMMUNITY MEN PLEASE DO NOT COMMENT*

It’s something I’ve seen thrown at women a fair bit. Feminazi, stripping men’s rights, feminism has gone too far blah blah. Has anyone ever accused you of it? And any women said this to you?

  • growsomethinggood ()@reddthat.com
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    2 days ago

    Are we prepared to talk about the subtle (or sometimes unsubtle) misogynist (plus intersections of transphobia, homophobia, and racism) streak on the Fediverse? I’ve gotten the weirdest pushback for relatively mild takes with such frequency I’ve come to expect it. I am not afraid to block anyone who is being a prick, but if anything I post gets a modicum of attention I have to avoid my inbox like the plague or be sealioned to death. I don’t remember it being this bad on reddit (but I think communities self-sorted better with a larger userbase).

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      Yep we face it all the time in our group, we get the manosphere making nasty and/or anti trans remarks or passive aggressive trolling. That’s why posts like this have to be flagged as women only so they’ve got no excuse. We’re ruthless with the ban button though so its manageable.

      It’s really sad cos we’ve had so many incredibly supportive men cheering for or quietly upvoting us. I don’t remember reddit being this bad but I think you’re right, they stuck to their own areas.

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      Also the downvotes. I haven’t yet seen any other topic that so consistently gets a few downvotes across every community. And by topic, I don’t necessarily mean “feminism” or something controversial, it’s more like explicitly mentioning women is enough. See also this community.

      It’s only ever a handful and it’s less subtle than comments or messages, but it doesn’t really create a welcoming atmosphere. Especially since downvotes are otherwise used quite sparingly in Lemmy on the whole (with some exceptions of course).

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      I’ve been getting that too, but I don’t think it’s misogyny so much as contrarianism. It seems like any opinion has it’s detractors around here, this post included. XD

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      Last night, I encountered someone complaining that a woman didn’t act all calm and reserved in response to flight attendants denying thr stage of pregnancy but that her bf did.

      Prick was all like “Well actually, I would reserve judgment without seeing exactly what happened”.

      God, I hate men.

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        Men don’t like to be judged for how other men are, even if they’re guilty of the same things. I think it’s this kind of “god I hate men” mentality feminism is unfortunately associated with which they react to and causes them to close their ears to the feminist Good News.

        If somebody came to you with “god I hate women,” would you really want to keep listening as they go on to talk about how women should talk less when men are around? Me neither. And yet, getting men to stop talking over women is an important goal, but it’s a hard pill for them to swallow. If you want to convince men to be better, speak their language.

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      Found it really funny that in a green text meme post that was basically “-want to be a woman -don’t have dysphoria” that when someone said they had the same sentiment as OP there was instantly someone in the comments saying they might be trans… as opposed to, you know, just already being a woman 😂

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        Assigned Woman By Internet

        For real, I’d much rather have a trans-friendly community that sometimes forgets cis people exist than one that excludes trans people!