• gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    19 hours ago

    Yeah, sure, I’ll cite you my real life experiences, no problem

    Shall I upload my memory directly to your brain, or store it off-site for you?

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      18 hours ago

      I can find somebody that says any crazy thing anywhere. That’s why I asked for a citation. So, I’m glad you clarified that it was random women in your vicinity saying this.

      BTW, this is not an experience I’ve had. If women around you feel compelled to say “Men are rapists”, maybe you should stop to think about why that is.

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        17 hours ago

        If you can’t win an argument without insinuating your opponent is a rapist maybe you should stop to think about why that is.

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        16 hours ago

        So, I’m glad you clarified that it was random women in your vicinity saying this.

        It’s not random women, it’s specifically self-identitied feminists that have said that around me, actually. I’ve never heard a woman who said that not be a radical feminist

        Intend to avoid feminist spaces online because the toxicity in referring to absolutely coalesces in those spaces, but if I did I’m certain I’d be able to cite an example of two (back in my Facebook days I could do that easily by going to some friends pages and scrolling for a minute)

        BTW, this is not an experience I’ve had. If women around you feel compelled to say “Men are rapists”, maybe you should stop to think about why that is.

        That’s nice, maybe hang around more feminist spaces then, cuz I’ve seen it a disturbing number of times in my life, and I’ve only been an adult 11 years. Granted, that’s about the only place I’ve heard that said

        Fuck, man, I literally had one woman tell me I was a perpetuator of rape culture because I’m a man, and when a friend of mine pointed out that I’m both a victim of rape & the mythical “rumour that he raped someone he didn’t” said woman doubled down and tried to claim those were also my fault

        Cool thing is, I’m an adult, and can separate the fact that there are terrible people who believe and espouse those ideas & that they tend to be feminist women, and thus don’t believe they all (or anything close to a majority) think or say that. I just find it irritating how often I see people deny it happens when it fucking does & its directly victimized me and others I care about in the past