It’s pretty simple. If they can’t just walk away and choose not to talk to you, don’t shoot your shot.
If they are going through security to get on a scheduled flight, and you are security, do not shoot your shot.
If you are their boss, in your office, do not shoot your shot.
If you are purchasing something from them, do not shoot your shot.
If you are at a bar, and you are polite, shoot your shot. And accept a no graciously.
If you are at a park, and you are both walking your dogs, try to start up a conversation (not shoot your shot). And accept a no graciously.
If you are the President of the United States, and you have a 19-year-old intern in your office, DO NOT shoot your shot.
Seems pretty simple to me. I’m a man in my 40s, have started plenty of conversations with women (and men) in public, and have never had any negative experiences from it (other than coming across some VERY strange people). Weird.
What happened to just having hobbies and social groups and then developing genuine relationships there, too? Why are the “male loneliness” advocates acting like picking up girls has ever been the standard for developing a relationship? Just seems like brainrot from watching too many “ripped guy in the beach picking up girls” videos at a young age…
I have had a bunch of relationships and flings in my life and only like one or two happened through “shooting my shot”, most were friends of friends, school colleagues, large Whatsapp group chats (were a big thing in Brazil for a while), etc.
Lots of downvotes here, but I get this. As a woman in the 70s, (before social media), young people gathered at dances, night clubs, outdoor parties, indoor parties. We usually arrived with friends and felt safe engaging with other people. You might “click” with someone and spend a couple of hours conversing or dancing. It was face-to-face, up close and personal. I feel for men and women these days trying to meet on social media. When chatting via text you can’t hear voice inflections, you can’t see facial expressions. Sometimes emojis just don’t cut it. It’s definitely a new frontier.
It’s pretty simple. If they can’t just walk away and choose not to talk to you, don’t shoot your shot.
If they are going through security to get on a scheduled flight, and you are security, do not shoot your shot.
If you are their boss, in your office, do not shoot your shot.
If you are purchasing something from them, do not shoot your shot.
If you are at a bar, and you are polite, shoot your shot. And accept a no graciously.
If you are at a park, and you are both walking your dogs, try to start up a conversation (not shoot your shot). And accept a no graciously.
If you are the President of the United States, and you have a 19-year-old intern in your office, DO NOT shoot your shot.
Seems pretty simple to me. I’m a man in my 40s, have started plenty of conversations with women (and men) in public, and have never had any negative experiences from it (other than coming across some VERY strange people). Weird.
What happened to just having hobbies and social groups and then developing genuine relationships there, too? Why are the “male loneliness” advocates acting like picking up girls has ever been the standard for developing a relationship? Just seems like brainrot from watching too many “ripped guy in the beach picking up girls” videos at a young age…
I have had a bunch of relationships and flings in my life and only like one or two happened through “shooting my shot”, most were friends of friends, school colleagues, large Whatsapp group chats (were a big thing in Brazil for a while), etc.
Let me know when you’re 20 years old and growing up with social media and society the way it is, we’ll see if your logic still applies.
Lots of downvotes here, but I get this. As a woman in the 70s, (before social media), young people gathered at dances, night clubs, outdoor parties, indoor parties. We usually arrived with friends and felt safe engaging with other people. You might “click” with someone and spend a couple of hours conversing or dancing. It was face-to-face, up close and personal. I feel for men and women these days trying to meet on social media. When chatting via text you can’t hear voice inflections, you can’t see facial expressions. Sometimes emojis just don’t cut it. It’s definitely a new frontier.
That’s a lot to take in. I will just not shoot my shot.
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As is your prerogative, but then you don’t get to complain that you can’t find anyone.