• jj4211@lemmy.world
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    6 hours ago

    I mean, a date can be a pretty safe and tame event. It’s how you might get to know someone.

    You shouldn’t expect anything romantic out of such a date, and certainly makes sense to meet at the venue and the venue be very open and visible. But to say you can’t even offer a chance to get to know each other without getting to know each other is a bit over the top.

    Better chances in interest themed events and activities to have a promising match of course, but there has to be some opportunity to get acquainted.

    • TheDoozer@lemmy.world
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      4 hours ago

      There is a huge difference between “you’re pretty and that’s the only thing I know about you, want to go on a date?” And “Hey, we share a few similar interests and you are pleasant to talk to, and attractive, would you like to go on a date?”

      You should have a baseline beyond simply looking at them. A date is where you get to know them beyond that baseline. If it’s a stranger, it isn’t unreasonable to say you should have at least a few minutes of conversation before asking them out.